Ways to pay back parents - Page 3 - Toyota GR86, 86, FR-S and Subaru BRZ Forum & Owners Community

rice_classic · 08-31-2014, 06:08 PM

Considering how awful so many people turn out to be, I think the best way to pay back your parents is to actually turn out the way they always hoped you would.

Not accounting for crazy over-bearing parents with unreal expectations they project onto their children to make up for their own poor life choices and inadequacies... there's nothing you can do for those parents.

Dadhawk · 08-31-2014, 06:47 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by rice_classic

Considering how awful so many people turn out to be, I think the best way to pay back your parents is to actually turn out the way they always hoped you would. ....

This is, by far, the greatest gift of all (I speak as a Father and a Son).

This is all I want from my 3 sons (25, 21, 17). If they grow up, do no harm, and leave a legacy of good friends, good deeds and good family, I'll die a happy man.

Be there for the big and the small events, call them every once in a while, and be happy to see/talk to them, and all will be repaid.

EAGLE5 · 08-31-2014, 06:53 PM

Don't buy your parents something when you're fresh out of college. Get yourself a career. Buy yourself a house. Get married. Have grandkids for them to play with. That's what they really want. When you're older, a car is not so important. Your reflexes get worse and worse. It's harder to pay attention too. A car isn't the thing.

sklimo · 09-01-2014, 01:59 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by rice_classic

Considering how awful so many people turn out to be, I think the best way to pay back your parents is to actually turn out the way they always hoped you would.

Not accounting for crazy over-bearing parents with unreal expectations they project onto their children to make up for their own poor life choices and inadequacies... there's nothing you can do for those parents.

As a father I approve this

Eg0 · 09-01-2014, 02:17 AM

I was just thinking about this about 3-4 days ago. I remember when I was in elementary/middle school my dad saying that his dream car was a corvette. Obviously I can't get it for him now (I'm only 22 and transitioning out of the military) but I plan to eventually buy it for him. I'm also thinking of sending both of them to Europe for their anniversary (that's not too expensive)

Roadster19 · 09-02-2014, 05:48 AM

I wish i could afford to buy my dad the testorosa or diablo he always wanted but as a high schooler i doubt itll happen anytime soon. My dad has wanted an ipad for so long and his birthday is coming up, I'm gonna try and get him the ipad air, but with no income it's gonna be hard but they've done so much for me i have to try my best, my mom never asks for anything and if i get her anything over 10$ she feels guilty and says you should have used that money for food. I wish i had the money to buy my parents all the shit they deserve, that's my motivation to to we'll in school and get a good job.

Captain Snooze · 09-02-2014, 05:58 AM

I quit work to help mom look after my dad who was developing dementia/getting frail. I didn't realise being a carer was so demanding. I spent nearly 2 and 1/2 years living at my parents home waking up in the middle of the night because I heard something that might have been dad related. At least he still knew who we were. He had always been there for us and it was the least I could to for him. F**k me he had trouble getting in and out of my car lol. We went for a drive that morning, he died that night. Way to go.

f0rge · 09-02-2014, 02:12 PM

This is harder for me, my parents are quite well off financially and even when I was 32 they helped me with the downpayment on my first home. Hell, they still take my wife and I on family vacations at least once a year.

My wife and I both have good jobs, but it would be impossible to pay them back with any type of financial gesture, even a gift. They don't live an extravagent lifestyle but they have everything they want and need already.

Like @Dadhawk said, I just try to be a good son, don't skip the family get togethers, call them every once and a while, take them out to dinner every now and again, ask for advice on things. Generally just try to keep their stress about me to an absolute minimum and include them in the happy times. Me being happy and successful makes them happy.

ftc~brz · 09-02-2014, 02:28 PM

I can't afford my parents

Nevermore · 09-02-2014, 02:50 PM

I'd like to get them something eventually, but as it is right now it'll take me forever to save up for something like a car or house (or as my dad has requested often, a million dollar race horse). I pay rent to live at home, so that'll have to do for now.

ftc~brz · 09-02-2014, 02:54 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Nevermore

I'd like to get them something eventually, but as it is right now it'll take me forever to save up for something like a car or house (or as my dad has requested often, a million dollar race horse). I pay rent to live at home, so that'll have to do for now.

a million dollar race horse will cost more than it earns fwiw.

Jesse36m3 · 09-02-2014, 03:16 PM

My dad had an 87' GNX back in the day. Met my mom the night he brought it home, brand new. It was stolen twice in two years. Never recovered. My brother and I are both out of college at decent jobs and we made an agreement one day to get another one for him. He's already 57, I think. I've never seen him cry, but I'm pretty sure this would do it.

Nevermore · 09-02-2014, 06:02 PM

My parents are pretty well versed in the negative equity situation that is all things horse racing. I don't think they will ever get tired of it though.

BRZZZZZZZZZZ · 09-02-2014, 08:26 PM

Would love to buy my dad a 911 or 458 Italia as a daily driver if I ever won the lottery, and a nice red 2015 Mustang convertible for my mom because I know she loves them and her first car was a red 1967 Mustang. My parent's are very well off and my dad already has a Caterham, BMW 135i, Subaru XV Crosstrek and a project racecar he designed himself, but he just won't let my mom own a convertible it seems like.

08-31-2014, 06:08 PM	#29
rice_classic Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2012 Drives: Nevermorange FRS Location: Seattle, WA Posts: 4,174 Thanks: 757 Thanked 4,208 Times in 1,808 Posts Mentioned: 78 Post(s) Tagged: 1 Thread(s)	Considering how awful so many people turn out to be, I think the best way to pay back your parents is to actually turn out the way they always hoped you would. Not accounting for crazy over-bearing parents with unreal expectations they project onto their children to make up for their own poor life choices and inadequacies... there's nothing you can do for those parents. __________________ SCCA T4 - FRS

09-02-2014, 05:58 AM	#35
Captain Snooze Because compromise ® Join Date: Jan 2012 Drives: Red Herring Location: australia Posts: 7,819 Thanks: 4,050 Thanked 9,556 Times in 4,196 Posts Mentioned: 60 Post(s) Tagged: 0 Thread(s)	I quit work to help mom look after my dad who was developing dementia/getting frail. I didn't realise being a carer was so demanding. I spent nearly 2 and 1/2 years living at my parents home waking up in the middle of the night because I heard something that might have been dad related. At least he still knew who we were. He had always been there for us and it was the least I could to for him. F**k me he had trouble getting in and out of my car lol. We went for a drive that morning, he died that night. Way to go. __________________ My car is completely stock except for all the mods.

09-02-2014, 02:50 PM	#38
Nevermore Wayward Member Join Date: May 2012 Drives: Hot Lava 86 Location: Bust of Pallas Posts: 3,336 Thanks: 1,669 Thanked 2,312 Times in 1,386 Posts Mentioned: 50 Post(s) Tagged: 3 Thread(s)	I'd like to get them something eventually, but as it is right now it'll take me forever to save up for something like a car or house (or as my dad has requested often, a million dollar race horse). I pay rent to live at home, so that'll have to do for now. __________________

09-02-2014, 06:02 PM	#41
Nevermore Wayward Member Join Date: May 2012 Drives: Hot Lava 86 Location: Bust of Pallas Posts: 3,336 Thanks: 1,669 Thanked 2,312 Times in 1,386 Posts Mentioned: 50 Post(s) Tagged: 3 Thread(s)	My parents are pretty well versed in the negative equity situation that is all things horse racing. I don't think they will ever get tired of it though. __________________

Similar Threads
Thread	Thread Starter	Forum	Replies	Last Post
Question for parents...	ghost86	Off-Topic Lounge [WARNING: NO POLITICS]	29	04-15-2014 12:03 PM
Ways you COULD get of out a ticket	Muskokan	Off-Topic Lounge [WARNING: NO POLITICS]	11	09-10-2013 07:42 AM
give me ideas to convince my parents	warplane95	BRZ First-Gen (2012+) — General Topics	45	04-28-2013 01:45 PM
Buying your parents a house...	Sparkplug	Off-Topic Lounge [WARNING: NO POLITICS]	44	10-17-2012 12:50 PM
AutoGuide.com: Parents Push Teens To Drive Stick to Avoid Distracted Driving	poormans_LFA	Other Vehicles & General Automotive Discussions	15	01-25-2012 11:02 AM

09-01-2014, 02:17 AM	#33
Eg0 Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2014 Drives: 2014 Scion FR-S AT - Asphalt Location: Texas Posts: 100 Thanks: 18 Thanked 9 Times in 8 Posts Mentioned: 3 Post(s) Tagged: 0 Thread(s)	I was just thinking about this about 3-4 days ago. I remember when I was in elementary/middle school my dad saying that his dream car was a corvette. Obviously I can't get it for him now (I'm only 22 and transitioning out of the military) but I plan to eventually buy it for him. I'm also thinking of sending both of them to Europe for their anniversary (that's not too expensive)

09-02-2014, 05:48 AM	#34
Roadster19 Member Join Date: Jul 2014 Drives: Honda accord v6 coupe Location: Canada Posts: 52 Thanks: 87 Thanked 10 Times in 8 Posts Mentioned: 0 Post(s) Tagged: 0 Thread(s)	I wish i could afford to buy my dad the testorosa or diablo he always wanted but as a high schooler i doubt itll happen anytime soon. My dad has wanted an ipad for so long and his birthday is coming up, I'm gonna try and get him the ipad air, but with no income it's gonna be hard but they've done so much for me i have to try my best, my mom never asks for anything and if i get her anything over 10$ she feels guilty and says you should have used that money for food. I wish i had the money to buy my parents all the shit they deserve, that's my motivation to to we'll in school and get a good job.

09-02-2014, 03:16 PM	#40
Jesse36m3 Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2014 Drives: JDL Turbo BRZ Location: EG, RI Posts: 450 Thanks: 46 Thanked 305 Times in 140 Posts Mentioned: 3 Post(s) Tagged: 2 Thread(s)	My dad had an 87' GNX back in the day. Met my mom the night he brought it home, brand new. It was stolen twice in two years. Never recovered. My brother and I are both out of college at decent jobs and we made an agreement one day to get another one for him. He's already 57, I think. I've never seen him cry, but I'm pretty sure this would do it.

09-02-2014, 08:26 PM	#42
BRZZZZZZZZZZ Car Nut Join Date: Dec 2013 Drives: BMW 335d, Toyota Echo RS, FRS Location: Calgary Posts: 1,557 Thanks: 368 Thanked 603 Times in 346 Posts Mentioned: 12 Post(s) Tagged: 2 Thread(s)	Would love to buy my dad a 911 or 458 Italia as a daily driver if I ever won the lottery, and a nice red 2015 Mustang convertible for my mom because I know she loves them and her first car was a red 1967 Mustang. My parent's are very well off and my dad already has a Caterham, BMW 135i, Subaru XV Crosstrek and a project racecar he designed himself, but he just won't let my mom own a convertible it seems like.

User Name		Remember Me?
Password