Screwed myself out of my dream car...literally

[MmmHamSandwich]

I am guessing this was an accident, since the 4 door Si would have been perfect. Sorry to hear about the car, good luck with the wife and kid.

I suggest you keep the car around until she can't deal with it anymore. You already took the major hit on depreciation, might as well keep it a while longer. Put it back to stock and enjoy it until it is time to trade in, it will be a quick and easy sell. Also consider she might change her mind or something might happen early during the pregnancy (not to be a downer but it happens...), in which case you will regret having sold the car so soon.

[Justin.b]

Originally Posted by Asterisked Accolade

I'm very surprised by how much i'm agreeing with everyone while still holding a fairly inverse opinion. I think a lot of people really do get married too soon, and that leaves their livelihoods and property at great risk-- you never want to leave your belongings in the path of a scorned and vindictive woman.

Also, i agree that too many people marry "projects," or just people with quirks which they figure they'll just get used to. Personally, i don't value marriage in the slightest. But if i were to consider marriage or a higher-level relationship, i would have to love nearly everything about her to wager half my stuff on being in love for another fifty years.

See, that's what makes it a lot less complicated for me. I really didn't / don't have much in the way of money or possessions to worry about.

If we got divorced tomorrow, I think the only thing we'd fight over would be the dog.

-Justin

[Asterisked Accolade]

Originally Posted by Justin.b

See, that's what makes it a lot less complicated for me. I really didn't / don't have much in the way of money or possessions to worry about.

If we got divorced tomorrow, I think the only thing we'd fight over would be the dog.

-Justin

But what about your cars? House/Apartment? I envision someone getting married and not having much to lose, but maybe you get a better job, nicer house, new car(s)-- then you have much more to lose. I dunno, perhaps it's also corrosive to a relationship to concentrate on a potential divorce.

[Justin.b]

Originally Posted by Asterisked Accolade

But what about your cars? House/Apartment? I envision someone getting married and not having much to lose, but maybe you get a better job, nicer house, new car(s)-- then you have much more to lose. I dunno, perhaps it's also corrosive to a relationship to concentrate on a potential divorce.

Both cars are titled in my name and the work car obviously won't go to her. But I'm pretty sure everything in MA is considered communal property. We have a townhouse bought in 2004.... which won't be worth what we paid for it for a while still. If one wants to keep it, we can - or just give it back to the bank. I would probably keep the Miata and she'd take the FR-S. I'm not sure how retirement funds get split up, but we're pretty even there too (she's smarter with money, started earlier).

I met her with nothing but a couple of 3rd gen f-bodies. Everything I have now we have pretty much acquired together. Yeah, I made more money along the way, but I also travel a lot for work and she's the one taking care of the place/cats/dog.

I feel it's been a partnership and we're both entitled to half of whatever we've acquired together.

-Justin

[polarbear]

I think the people who are saying, "Get a cheapo sedan for the next nine months and switch back to the fun car." are missing the point. This kid will need a car seat and I know some people have said it works, but it's not very practical to get a baby/toddler in and out of a car seat in the tiny FR-S back seats. Also, I think people are failing to recognize that these kids grow up and need to be driven around. Then, they get on various sports teams or whatever and have friends that need to be picked up for practice and whatnot. Plan your sh*t out before you bring another human being into the world. If you're not willing to work as a team (husband and wife) in order to give this child everything it needs, then don't have a kid.

I also know a bunch of people with their "fun" cars who have children of their own, but they have enough money to also have their own kiddy transporter in case the wife can't get the kids in her boring car. Oh, am I stereotyping here? Like ST185RC said, you had to sell her car so you could get something for yourself.

Sorry for the rant. I'm sure you all are wonderful people, but when you post this sort of stuff it makes you sound selfish. Human being > toys. If you're not willing to sacrifice, then don't bring one into the world. End of story.

[no_name]

Sell the 4x4 and get Corolla or Civic or Golf or ... you get the idea.

[bakerr6]

Originally Posted by polarbear

I think the people who are saying, "Get a cheapo sedan for the next nine months and switch back to the fun car." are missing the point. This kid will need a car seat and I know some people have said it works, but it's not very practical to get a baby/toddler in and out of a car seat in the tiny FR-S back seats. Also, I think people are failing to recognize that these kids grow up and need to be driven around. Then, they get on various sports teams or whatever and have friends that need to be picked up for practice and whatnot. Plan your sh*t out before you bring another human being into the world. If you're not willing to work as a team (husband and wife) in order to give this child everything it needs, then don't have a kid.

I also know a bunch of people with their "fun" cars who have children of their own, but they have enough money to also have their own kiddy transporter in case the wife can't get the kids in her boring car. Oh, am I stereotyping here? Like ST185RC said, you had to sell her car so you could get something for yourself.

Sorry for the rant. I'm sure you all are wonderful people, but when you post this sort of stuff it makes you sound selfish. Human being > toys. If you're not willing to sacrifice, then don't bring one into the world. End of story.

I don't agree with your post. There's no way I'm going to sacrifice enjoying my life, because timmy down the street can't get to baseball practice unless I take him. If he wants to ride with me and my kid, he can sit in the back and not complain about it. Sacrificing for your family is one thing, but I'm not here to be the team taxi

[jadewbj]

Originally Posted by polarbear

I think the people who are saying, "Get a cheapo sedan for the next nine months and switch back to the fun car." are missing the point. This kid will need a car seat and I know some people have said it works, but it's not very practical to get a baby/toddler in and out of a car seat in the tiny FR-S back seats. Also, I think people are failing to recognize that these kids grow up and need to be driven around. Then, they get on various sports teams or whatever and have friends that need to be picked up for practice and whatnot. Plan your sh*t out before you bring another human being into the world. If you're not willing to work as a team (husband and wife) in order to give this child everything it needs, then don't have a kid.

I also know a bunch of people with their "fun" cars who have children of their own, but they have enough money to also have their own kiddy transporter in case the wife can't get the kids in her boring car. Oh, am I stereotyping here? Like ST185RC said, you had to sell her car so you could get something for yourself.

Sorry for the rant. I'm sure you all are wonderful people, but when you post this sort of stuff it makes you sound selfish. Human being > toys. If you're not willing to sacrifice, then don't bring one into the world. End of story.

The guy doesn't seem to be hurting for money so to suggest he sell off his mods (or even just the ones he has not installed) to get a used family friendly car for the carting around of precious ones doesn't seem far fetched. Not sure how that makes us selfish.

[Justin.b]

Originally Posted by jadewbj

The guy doesn't seem to be hurting for money so to suggest he sell off his mods (or even just the ones he has not installed) to get a used family friendly car for the carting around of precious ones doesn't seem far fetched. Not sure how that makes us selfish.

Not hurting for money before kids can quickly become hurting for money after kids.

Also, it's a bit harder to find the cheap decent cars anymore. Between drastically reduced new car sales, cash for clunkers and the number of used cars that seem to get snatched up and shipped off in containers to China, the pre-owned inventory is drastically reduced.

-Justin

[RandomHero]

Kinda scrolled to the bottom here but my 2 cents is: Sell/Trade the 4x4 for a used Subaru that you can both drive (all wheel drive good for winter/ rough roads) small enough that wife is comfy getting in and out. Room for car seat(s). Good safety record. You get to keep an iconic car

The FRS is a great daily driver/car/piece of art/history. Dont swap it for some mundane P.O.S.

/end rant

[Norcalscionchamp]

Originally Posted by ST185RC

I'll take a different approach to this:

So you have your Toyota 4x4, you sell your wife's car (with or without her permission, it's gone) to get your own car, and proceed to spend 1/3 of the value of the car on it, have fun with your wife between the sheets and now she carries your child and you're complaining?

It really looks like she got the short end of the stick here. She lost her car to get yours, she let you have fun while she has to carry the kid for 9 months and you're hung up on whether you should sell the car even after dumping that much money that the civic was probably worth?

Let's look at the net result, you sold your wife's car that paid for parts for your vehicle and you have a kid. Priorities much?


Sounds like a ME ME ME story and the wife who sacrificed to keep you happy.
You damn well better do what she needs you to support her through this time. The only thing you lost is maybe a few hours of sleep over those heated arguments.

Everyone calling her a bitch without knowing the full story, she's most likely hopped up on hormones from having a kid. I'm not letting the FR-S in question cloud objectivity here, I'm just going by what is in the OP's post.

I think you got it all wrong from
my end...I am in no way complaining about my wife and me having our first kid lol I am stoked beyond compare!! And I only drive the fr-s when we are both together...I'm a simple guy I drive a muddy old 1991 xtra cab Toyota pickup with 220,000 miles on it...i got this car to fulfill my manly need for all thing automotive and at the same time make my wife happy...She wanted the car as bad as I did...she WAS driving a 6 speed manual civic si before and yes I find it sexy that she wanted the manual fr-s too...she drives like a princess all dainty and slow but I don't know many 5'11" blondes that drive stick, hunt, fish, cook, clean, and hold a 4.0 in college so I would never trade my life for the single one...had my fun back in the day but now that i found my ultimate keeper... Had to lock it down... And now I get to have a kid it is AWESOME...she has already promised to get me the new supra once it comes out and she is done with dental hygiene school...and yes it is a matter of budget...I am currently the only breadwinner and I have bills for 3 now so I am working on ways to make this work...purchased this when I wasn't expecting more bills and the expenses that come with a little one...maybe should have waited to modify but I'm one of those people that likes to do everything in the beginning, not slowly add on... That was my bad but overall I think you've gotten the wrong impression of me... I'm not trying to whine and I am so happy to be having a kid... I was just looking for suggestions

[bazi]

"If you want to go fast, go by yourself. If you want to go far, go with your family" anonymous.

With that being said, make a decision you won't regret. If you decide to sell or keep the FRS, make sure you don't regret it either way. BTW, congrats on having a baby.

[TouchMyHonda]

First, shes using a the baby as some sort of selfish leverage for what she wants to happen. This car has nothing to do with anything. She has a car no? You can just get one 4 door car for her to use and for family use. Life is about compromise, and droive around the same car for 20+ years seems like a lot of compromise on your end to lose what you have been waiting for now.

Last, You are gonna lose your ASS on reselling this now. The effects of the money you will lose, far out weighs any kind of discomfort this car might have on her. This will be a costly mistake financially, mentally, and spiritually... over nothing really. Get another Family/wife only car.

Man pants bro! Shes not going to leave you over a car when shes pregnant and married to you. Put your foot down, this is unreasonable (the word to describe 90% of women).

[nix]

Falcon punch to the uterus.