My Dad is going to destroy my clutch. Please help!

[steeloyangster]

Originally Posted by Teseo

After readin this thread i called my dad for make a day "dad and son". Will consist in drinking some beers watch a baseball game and why not drive my frs. I miss him

Man, I wish I could do this with my dad.

"Hey Dad, wanna go drive the car?"
"NO! Too busy!"

"Hey Dad, let's go watch a movie."
"NO! Too loud!"

"Hey Dad, lemme take you to dinner."
"Why you eat out all the time. You just waste money."

"Happy Birthday Dad! Here's some money!"
"Wha!? Why you give me money! You don't think I have money!"
"Everyone can use some money. Get yourself something nice."
"Save it for when you have kid and buy diaper for them."

Asian problems.

[chaoskaze]

Originally Posted by Brndn704

You're 30 and still live with your dad? ......

Hey there is nothing wrong with that! Maybe a bit unusual for North America I guess.

But lots asian family tend to live with their parents till a few years after their kids were born. So child care & lots living expenses are a lot cheaper & easier when the family is still financially unstable & it just happen to help the kids grow better too. As you will have more time to focus on doing wut's most productive for the family cuz the load is more evenly shared.

Even if you are single, a penny saved is a penny saved!

[Tcoat]

Originally Posted by chaoskaze

Hey there is nothing wrong with that! Maybe a bit unusual for North America I guess.

But lots asian family tend to live with their parents till a few years after their kids were born. So child care & lots living expenses are a lot cheaper & easier when the family is still financially unstable & it just happen to help the kids grow better too. As you will have more time to focus on doing wut's most productive for the family cuz the load is more evenly shared.

Even if you are single, a penny saved is a penny saved!

Ya, if I had realized he was Asian back at the start my responses would have been very different. I worked with about 800 newly arrived Asians for several years so fully understand there are some considerable cultural differences involved.
I think I am just going to start to assume that everybody on here is Asian until proven differently.
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[chaoskaze]

Originally Posted by Tcoat

Ya, if I had realized he was Asian back at the start my responses would have been very different. I worked with about 800 newly arrived Asians for several years so fully understand there are some considerable cultural differences involved.
I think I am just going to start to assume that everybody on here is Asian until proven differently.
.

Tcoat you silly! I'm just saying wut's wrong with living with your parents @ 30!! I haven't since young because my parents are in asia, but if they were here the whole time I really don't mind spending more time with them.

[Tcoat]

Originally Posted by chaoskaze

Tcoat you silly! I'm just saying wut's wrong with living with your parents @ 30!! I haven't since young because my parents are in asia, but if they were here the whole time I really don't mind spending more time with them.

Since for my generation and culture it was 18 and out for many of us and therefore the very concept of staying until 30 is absurd. Staying until your twenties was almost unheard of and people would think there was something wrong with you.
I was actually gone from home at 17 (I joined the army) and that was way less weird than anybody in their mid twenties that was still at home back then.

[Aozora.BRZ]

OP's story reenactment for those that prefer waiting for the movie than reading the book:

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[chaoskaze]

Tcoat, I know the North American democratic is like that. But thing is you know Asians are like cheap bastards.... 😂 You know how Asians are destroying the housing market all over the place....lots of them finance their houses & rent it out & still stays at their parents. By age of 40 they will have more then 300k- 600k saved up compare to a said "local".

The vicious cycle of housing market continues no matter wut you do. In Vancouver this has already become a very serious issue. I mean that's 300-600k houses you get for close to nothing!!! That along with the booming economy in Asia contribute to Asian family having so much buying power in North America now.


Ya.. I know kind works only on first generation of immigrants. 😅😅 No one who grow up here in their right mind is gonna do that.

But will you not do it for half of a million if your parents taught you that way?

[steeloyangster]

Originally Posted by Tcoat

Since for my generation and culture it was 18 and out for many of us and therefore the very concept of staying until 30 is absurd. Staying until your twenties was almost unheard of and people would think there was something wrong with you.
I was actually gone from home at 17 (I joined the army) and that was way less weird than anybody in their mid twenties that was still at home back then.

Haha, I also left home at 17. Once I graduated from High School I decided to go backpacking across the country for a couple years. Got into a lot of strange situations and met a ton of cool people. I finally ended up getting a footing in Denver, CO. I stayed there for about a year and then the call from the family came in. Mom wasn't feeling so good and I should go stay close to her. Moved back to NC and met my current wife. Started working and saved up some money. Started a computer business and did IT work on the side. Family decided to move to MN and me being the eldest son HAD to follow. Sold the business and its accounts and dumped it into a house. Now I'm where I'm at now.

Asian families tend to live together in big houses or live closely to each other to provide financial and moral support. The women in the families move on to start their own lives and follow only their husband's families. Asians have weird cultural practices and although I reject 90% of them I still have to abide by the most intimately held of them. I consider myself American 100%. Whenever my father dies all the ties to the asian culture and rules/practices die with him.

[steeloyangster]

**UPDATE**

Alright, so maybe I've been overreacting and didn't give my father as much credit as he deserves.

After I changed the oil in my FRS today (Thanks Fumoto Valve for making my life a million times easier) I asked my father if he wanted to go for a quick drive in the WRX since I just got it and I wanted to show him the features that it had. Since most of these were new to him he obliged and was pretty impressed by the back up camera and heated seats/side mirrors. I asked him if he had anything to eat yet today and he said that he was too busy to eat breakfast. So we took a ride to the furthest Popeye's Fried Chicken joint.

I decided to start off by showing and telling him the main differences between the FRS and the WRX since he already had some experience in the FRS we had a good starting off point. He mentioned how much he loved the direct feel of the steering wheel in the FRS and how it had so much torque to pull you even in a high gear (I guess he hasn't driven anything with much torque lately and misunderstood throttle response?) I lightly chuckled to say "Wait till you feel it in the WRX."

On the smaller roads while at stop signs and lights I showed him how I kept the car in neutral and held the brake down to prevent clutch slippage and therefore extends the life of the clutch. I also told him about how accelerating only after fully letting out the clutch is also better for the clutch. I made up some lousy excuse saying that the clutch material is softer and grippier than his truck and that it can wear down faster. He nodded his head and said "I can see that. Harder isn't always better. And since it's softer it can stick better." I agreed zealously because I felt like he was actually being receptive to the information I was giving him.

Once we got on the interstate I put it in sixth gear and push the throttle to the floor to show him the boost gauge and how it affects his performance. "That's the turbo doing the work. When it goes past the '0' mark then it's actually working." The car built up gradual speed as the whooshing sound got louder. I explained to him that that is the sound of the turbo. He smiled and said "That feels good." I started feeling really enthusiastic that hopefully this can be his "CAR MOMENT".

Once at Popeye's I got out and told him to switch seats while I went to order the food to go. When I got back and placed the food on the floor he was actually already tinkering with all the dials and buttons on his own! (He left my heated seat on by accident and it was over 90 degrees outside.) I told him he should go when he felt ready. The first gear start was a little rough but I'm sure everyone's first gear start in any strange car will be rough. Once we pulled out and found a decent cruising speed he started asking me questions. He asked what gear I thought he should be in at this speed. I said the lower gears will give you more power but the higher gears will give you better gas mileage. He chose 4th gear while cruising at about 40-50 MPH. He then reached a little bit of boost and he pulled back immediately. I told him that that is the turbo and he shouldn't be afraid of it. He then looked at the boost gauge and pressed on the accelerator again. He started laughing uncontrollably as the power surged us over the speed limit and he opted to shift into 6th. "Man, that is so fast. Why do they make cars this fast?" All I could do was smile and let him have his fun. To be honest I was looking around to make sure there were also no christmas lights chasing us.

Once we got to a stop light he actually put it into neutral and kept the foot on the brake. HE ACTUALLY TOOK WHAT I SAID AND APPLIED IT IMMEDIATELY! Talk about an old dog learning new tricks. He kinda freaked out when the light turned green and he had to shuffle to get the car into gear but I assured him to take his time and fuck all the people around us. He even started waiting to release the clutch pedal all the way before he pushed on the accelerator. I was very impressed.

We've never talked like this before and it was kind of refreshing to want to be around him. Very interesting experience.

Way to go Dad.

TL;DR - Father showed me he is more receptive than I gave him credit for and that trying to teach him won't get me lashed by a Bamboo stick.

P.S.- I told him to take the Subaru to church next Sunday so the friends/family can be impressed that he gets to drive all these fancy cars whenever he wants. He gave me the best Asian dad response which was to nod and say "Um."

[soulreapersteve]

My first day of getting the car, I literally threw the keys to my dad and said lets go take it out for a spin.

He threw it back to me and said no thanks.

I was as sad as the girl in my profile pic.

Funny thing is, he drives the new Civic that he bought like a high schooler. He used to have an 69 Camaro though...

[steeloyangster]

Originally Posted by soulreapersteve

My first day of getting the car, I literally threw the keys to my dad and said lets go take it out for a spin.

He threw it back to me and said no thanks.

I was as sad as the girl in my profile pic.

Funny thing is, he drives the new Civic that he bought like a high schooler. He used to have an 69 Camaro though...

The first thing I do when I get a car is to give my father the spare or valet key. It's usually so if I happen to lock myself out of my car or if he has to move it. My wife usually gets the other spare. When I brought the FRS home he was on vacation. Once he returned I gave him a spare and asked if he wanted to go drive it. He just shook his head and walked away.

[soulreapersteve]

Originally Posted by steeloyangster

The first thing I do when I get a car is to give my father the spare or valet key. It's usually so if I happen to lock myself out of my car or if he has to move it. My wife usually gets the other spare. When I brought the FRS home he was on vacation. Once he returned I gave him a spare and asked if he wanted to go drive it. He just shook his head and walked away.

Must be an Asian thing (I'm Asian also).

Too prideful or whatever lol

[GeoFRS]

Well I definitely didn't know there was so many Asians in this forum haha. I just read your story and I'm glad you guys sorted everything out! Maybe he was meant to be driving the WRX after all?

[carma143]

Originally Posted by Brndn704

You're 30 and still live with your dad? ......

MY parents did just that (before they met) so they could afford a million+ home the year they got married. It's a very good strategy. Or live with a friend and their family. Save ~24k a year and free breakfast/dinner. What's not to love?

Of course, if you become anti-social because of this, then get out PRONTO!