E-brake light on while driving

[Stang70Fastback]

Originally Posted by extrashaky

You're thinking about this like a guy. You see a problem and want to fix it. You see a guy describe a problem and don't understand why he didn't fix it. It's very simple to us.

To a woman, fixing her car may carry a lot of extra connotations. It's not, "Now my car is fixed." It's, "What does it mean for him to fix my car?" Does it mean she now has some obligation to him? Will fixing her car cross them into a different stage in their relationship? The next time they have a fight, will he be able to use this against her? If she tells her dad the boyfriend fixed the car, will he get upset? Will her mom tell her she's being too dependent? Does it really mean she's becoming dependent? Is she ready to depend on him? What if she starts relying on him and then he stops working on the car? What will that mean for their relationship? Is he going to let her down? If she's obligated now, what does she owe him? Maybe she should buy him something. Or does she need to just blow him? Surely a nice dinner will be sufficient. But oh, she's going to have to sit out there with him while he works, because it would be super bitchy to stay inside. Boooooring.

So maybe he hasn't fixed his girlfriend's car because they're not at that stage in their relationship, and she won't let him. Or maybe he's smart enough not to wade into that morass just yet.

Lol, well I signed a two-year lease on a place with my girlfriend after just a few months of dating, so maybe my timelines are slightly more compressed... but I'd think surely after a few MONTHS, she'd allow her car guy boyfriend to do some basic diagnostics on her car :P

[finch1750]

Originally Posted by Stang70Fastback

Your girlfriend's Accord has had an almost-constant BRAKE warning light illuminated on the dash for "months" and you still haven't done anything about it?

Do you hate your girlfriend?

I never said I didnt do anything about it, just that its still there. It got its pads, rotors, and fluid done a few months before this started so its all good. No visible signs of leaks. Her pedal was mush before and she didnt know if the fluid had been done since it was new so just redid the whole thing. Everything functions fine including the e-brake. That combined with it being our 3rd car means it never really gets driven (maybe 20 miles a week tops) so I havent worried about it too much.

And for context we have been together 11 years and lived together for over 5. I get nagged for not doing its maintnance on time lol

[Tcoat]

Originally Posted by extrashaky

You're thinking about this like a guy. You see a problem and want to fix it. You see a guy describe a problem and don't understand why he didn't fix it. It's very simple to us.

To a woman, fixing her car may carry a lot of extra connotations. It's not, "Now my car is fixed." It's, "What does it mean for him to fix my car?" Does it mean she now has some obligation to him? Will fixing her car cross them into a different stage in their relationship? The next time they have a fight, will he be able to use this against her? If she tells her dad the boyfriend fixed the car, will he get upset? Will her mom tell her she's being too dependent? Does it really mean she's becoming dependent? Is she ready to depend on him? What if she starts relying on him and then he stops working on the car? What will that mean for their relationship? Is he going to let her down? If she's obligated now, what does she owe him? Maybe she should buy him something. Or does she need to just blow him? Surely a nice dinner will be sufficient. But oh, she's going to have to sit out there with him while he works, because it would be super bitchy to stay inside. Boooooring.

So maybe he hasn't fixed his girlfriend's car because they're not at that stage in their relationship, and she won't let him. Or maybe he's smart enough not to wade into that morass just yet.

And after 37 years of marriage it becomes "my floor mat is crooked go fix it".

[Capt Spaulding]

Originally Posted by Tcoat

And after 37 years of marriage it becomes "my floor mat is crooked go fix it".

Just wait till you hit 45.

[Tcoat]

Originally Posted by Capt Spaulding

Just wait till you hit 45.

Eight more years? I will probably be dead and the mat will remain crooked.

[humfrz]

Originally Posted by Stang70Fastback

Lol, well I signed a two-year lease on a place with my girlfriend after just a few months of dating, so maybe my timelines are slightly more compressed... but I'd think surely after a few MONTHS, she'd allow her car guy boyfriend to do some basic diagnostics on her car :P

......... these days, I thought month-to-month would be pushing it ......


humfrz