PEER CRITICISM

[Tcoat]

Originally Posted by TommyW

In order to make others happy you must first be happy yourself and you must create your own happiness.

But if creating your own happiness is making others miserable then it is selfish. What if they are making you miserable to create their own happiness does that make it ok with you? It is a give and take thing and can not be one sided at any point.


Love the irony that the OP didn't want to listen to his family and friends so came to a forum full of strangers to ask. Oh wait... came here since he knew most would say "it is your life do as you please and screw everybody else".

[JARE_ee]

Originally Posted by Tcoat

But if creating your own happiness is making others miserable then it is selfish. What if they are making you miserable to create their own happiness does that make it ok with you? It is a give and take thing and can not be one sided at any point.


Love the irony that the OP didn't want to listen to his family and friends so came to a forum full of strangers to ask. Oh wait... came here since he knew most would say "it is your life do as you please and screw everybody else".

I felt alone with that decision, until i came here. I felt the warmth and support with each other. The FT86 Family is wonderful.

[Milhouse86]

Originally Posted by Tcoat

But if creating your own happiness is making others miserable then it is selfish. What if they are making you miserable to create their own happiness does that make it ok with you? It is a give and take thing and can not be one sided at any point.


Love the irony that the OP didn't want to listen to his family and friends so came to a forum full of strangers to ask. Oh wait... came here since he knew most would say "it is your life do as you please and screw everybody else".

That's a lot of assumptions. Ever been on a plane? They say put your mask on first cause you can't help anyone dead. Same concept.

So he should buy a mini van as a single 26 year old and that somehow is better for his family? My word the guy did not say he can't take the kids places or that he needs more space then it has.

[Tcoat]

Originally Posted by JARE_ee

I felt alone with that decision, until i came here. I felt the warmth and support with each other. The FT86 Family is wonderful.

Yep! I wasn't condemning there just pointing out that in order to resolve your inner conflict you sought the support of like minded people even if strangers. It can be difficult to go against the advice of your family and peers when you know that even though annoying they actually have what they believe to be the best of intentions.


I highly doubt that you had to resort to the whole "screw you I will do what I want" tactics that keep being brought up here and in the end they supported your well thought through decision. At least I hope that is how it played out since it would be a horrible thing to lose friends and become estranged from family for the sake of a certain car.

[Tcoat]

Originally Posted by Milhouse86

That's a lot of assumptions. Ever been on a plane? They say put your mask on first cause you can't help anyone dead. Same concept.

So he should buy a mini van as a single 26 year old and that somehow is better for his family? My word the guy did not say he can't take the kids places or that he needs more space then it has.

Are you really equating a protective device to interpersonal relationships?


Did I ever once say that he should buy a minivan or not buy the car? No I did not.


I am saying that you can not just say "Me fucking first and once I am happy with everything then I will work with others". That is not how society nor families work. If everybody did that then nobody would ever be happy. It is a give and take. He seems to have managed that give and take very well.

[sprintertrueno86]

Do you want to be a cookie cutter 26yr old or do you want to be yourself?

[TommyW]

Originally Posted by Tcoat

But if creating your own happiness is making others miserable then it is selfish. What if they are making you miserable to create their own happiness does that make it ok with you?

I don't think you get it......

[MuseChaser]

Originally Posted by Adam_L

OK then, F the snow/ice. I use to live in it when I was born till 10 yrs old in PA. I now live in CA, beach side. If you live in the snow/ice during those months, then it's most likely due to having a particular job that pays you X-amount of $$ , and/or your family lives there and it's just so gosh darn hard to get the heck out of dodge, and start a new life somewhere else. Suck it up, embrace where you live, take the good with the bad. As long as you keep moving in a positive direction that's all that really matters at the end of the day.

I think the quoting function is acting a little screwy... you, at least according to what I'm seeing, quoted my rant about selfishness/selfies then wrote the above. Not sure I see the connection.. but when I quoted you, it also quoted an unrelated post by Scrappydo.... soo it probably wasn't you.

However, to address your point above.. I live in an area that gets severe winter, along with beautiful versions of the other three seasons, because I LOVE winter... big time. I love snow and everything about it. I even love to shovel it. For me, it's not a question of "sucking it up" or being stuck in a job that requires me to live here. Heck, I'm pretty much retired... and I'm not moving to an "endless summer" beach burg ever. Don't get me wrong.. I love the ocean, snorkeling, scuba, would love to learn to surf... but please recognize that there are those of us who LOVE winter.

[Tcoat]

Originally Posted by TommyW

I don't think you get it......

Oh I get it. So screw all of you I am just going to do what makes me happy with no consideration to those around me or in my life. I

I am not saying give into what everybody tells you I am saying that if everybody puts their own happiness first then nobody will ever be happy since there will no compromise.

[TommyW]

Originally Posted by Tcoat

Oh I get it. So screw all of you I am just going to do what makes me happy with no consideration to those around me or in my life. I

I am not saying give into what everybody tells you I am saying that if everybody puts their own happiness first then nobody will ever be happy since there will no compromise.

SMH

[Tcoat]

Originally Posted by TommyW

SMH

I don't like the way you are shaking your head it makes me unhappy please stop.

[Scrappydoo]

Originally Posted by TommyW

In order to make others happy you must first be happy yourself and you must create your own happiness.

Wow. The selfishness continues.

In spades.

[Tcoat]

Originally Posted by Scrappydoo

Wow. The selfishness continues.

In spades.

Scrappy makes me happy so he can live.

[Scrappydoo]

Originally Posted by Milhouse86

Haha I have been selling real estate driving my frs for a couple years now. I have a couple of businesses that I run and deal in a very professional environment.

But I don't have kids and I've always been a car guy. I love my car and wouldn't change it. In my world I meet with people that invest millions of dollars with me and have no issue with what I drive. Just act like an adult and care yourself and professional manner. You'll be fine. Good choice on car!

What we need is an estate agent jumping in on a selfish post