Suicidal

[Tokay444]

Originally Posted by weederr33

Well he let's me know his limits and I try not to turn him into "the rock." But it helps because he's in the military as well so we get the particular struggles that comes with the job. I've spent enough time at the VA to get the major problems fix lol (thankfully).

Awesome, and kudos.

[soundman98]

Originally Posted by Tokay444

Hopefully your buddy doesn't have his own problems going that he needs to put on hold to help you with yours.
As the person who always gets to be, "The Rock", sometimes I feel like telling people, "I'm not equipped to help you. You need a professional counselor." but I fear that may put them over the edge. I'm glad they know they can rely on me, but it's emotionally draining being vested in everyone else's problems all the time, and having to back burner my own, of which luckily there are not that many.

We've all got our own problems that always seem bigger than everyone else's problems.

The reality is that all problems don't really matter, but the people that have the problems are what's most important.

The part i get hung up on a lot is that rarely does the person need help solving the problem as often as that person just needs someone to vent to.

[soundman98]

Originally Posted by Leonardo

I don't know you, but want to share that I struggle too. I will be 39 in a few days. And have found that, for me anyway, alcohol does more harm than good. Additionally, Money is not the path to happiness. (sure, it helps) But the key to happiness, IMO, is finding something that you love doing that also makes money.

I have a list of things taped to my dash that I look at on my drive home. Its all the things I'm thankful for and have to live for. Simple things like this help more than you would think.

Sleep is also SUPER IMPORTANT, as others have mentioned.

Also, exercise (running) helps me stay happy! (and healthy)

My mom's birthday is also tomorrow.

OP, Thank you for sharing. It sounds like you have a lot to live for, don't give up on yourself or your family.

We're supposed to avoid religious talk as part of the rules, but it's interesting to me how much of the core of what you're saying is in the bible.. while not everyone is going to agree on deities or religious texts, it's curious to me how the longer i live, the more i hear non-religious rules and banners being put into place that reflect religous teachings. As a history book, i find it interesting that even though we've supposedly evolved as a species, we still have many of the same fundamental problems they had way back then...

The more things change, yada yada yada...

[cjd]

A few random thoughts...


Nearly everyone out there is poor in one shade or another. A few people are rich, and spend some of that money trying to make the rest of us think somehow we can be too. Rags to riches is the oldest story going. Occasionally it happens. Most of the time, it's destructive.
The fastest way to being rich is to not spend. And while you may never find yourself with billions, being diligent about where the $ goes is the fastest way from never making ends meet to finding yourself with a little left to tuck away.
That probably means not spending money on alcohol or other drugs... impulse purchases are huge - never go to a store without a list, and don't buy things not on the list. Find alternate ways for that dopamine rush (yes, that influx of replies and quotes and thanks is a dopamine kick...)



Depression is pretty normal. Lots of help out there, and if you're employed full time you should have access to some free counseling. Use it. It's unlikely you'll find yourself depression-free and happy-ever-after, but you'll have some tools for working through it. I have a grounding list I use (always starts with literal grounding - observe and name 3 objects around me. Then the list, 3 things I haven't finished, but are important to me. One of the things on the list is sometimes a depression trigger, yet it's still there and helpful...)

Originally Posted by soundman98

We're supposed to avoid religious talk as part of the rules, but it's interesting to me how much of the core of what you're saying is in the bible.. while not everyone is going to agree on deities or religious texts, it's curious to me how the longer i live, the more i hear non-religious rules and banners being put into place that reflect religous teachings. As a history book, i find it interesting that even though we've supposedly evolved as a species, we still have many of the same fundamental problems they had way back then...

The more things change, yada yada yada...

Not really surprising at all. Religious texts were the only consistent way to codify and spread practices that are beneficial to survival. Don't drink dirty water. Don't eat spoiled meat. Don't kill each-other. General education wasn't a thing for most of human history - nor was leisure time. Yet rest is also important to survival, so it often becomes part of the rituals. It was the only opportunity to spread information not specific to whatever role each individual played in the community. I'm over simplifying, of course, because I've probably already offended someone.

[Leonardo]

Originally Posted by soundman98

We're supposed to avoid religious talk as part of the rules, but it's interesting to me how much of the core of what you're saying is in the bible.. while not everyone is going to agree on deities or religious texts, it's curious to me how the longer i live, the more i hear non-religious rules and banners being put into place that reflect religous teachings. As a history book, i find it interesting that even though we've supposedly evolved as a species, we still have many of the same fundamental problems they had way back then...

The more things change, yada yada yada...

I agree: Being a good person and living a good happy life can be guided by religion. Even though I am not religious. I live by a set of principles that many religions teach. I mean if everyone just went by the Golden Rule; things would be alot better.

[soundman98]

Originally Posted by cjd

Not really surprising at all. Religious texts were the only consistent way to codify and spread practices that are beneficial to survival. Don't drink dirty water. Don't eat spoiled meat. Don't kill each-other. General education wasn't a thing for most of human history - nor was leisure time. Yet rest is also important to survival, so it often becomes part of the rituals. It was the only opportunity to spread information not specific to whatever role each individual played in the community. I'm over simplifying, of course, because I've probably already offended someone.

I of course can't speak for others, but I've got a rule that any conversation about any topic is acceptable as long as no one attacks others personally. I've learned way more talking to people with opposing lifestyles calmly than i ever could have enforcing the rules of no religious discussion.

I've learned what it comes down to is that regardless of which religion we all identify with(and i consider athiesm a form of religion), it permeates the definition of ourselves, and to ignore such a fundamental part of every person to me is to strip that person of their humanity. And in the end, our humanity is all that separates us from skynet!

[Rogues Gambit]

https://www.amazon.com/Secret-Rhonda...gateway&sr=8-3

Life is what we make of it, we're magnets and attract energy, good or bad, that is the law of attraction.

I wish I read this book sooner, like around your age, I highly recommend it.

Also, Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem bro, don't do it, life'll get better, Trust me
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Do wanna add, that I feel for ya bro, I do. Just trust me, once you get the hang of it and see it working for you, your life'll change, even if the small stuff manifests first.

I only linked the book because trust me, while I heard it about the law of attraction before, I didn't realize how it worked until I wrote a journal entry and noticed all the little things add up, so start small when ya practice it. You'll thank me later once ya take a look

Also, DON'T say to the universe, "I don't want" or anything of the negative sorts (Like Not/Don't/Can't/etc), universe doesn't hear that, so if you say, "I don't want X/Y/Z", it hears it as "I WANT X/Y/Z"

[Impureclient]

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[Howaitoguru]

Reminder that if you’re feeling bad whip your 86/BRZ and beat down Project X by Xavier Wulf. You’ll feel better.


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[soundman98]

Originally Posted by Howaitoguru

Reminder that if you’re feeling bad whip your 86/BRZ and beat down Project X by Xavier Wulf. You’ll feel better.


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Like chicken soup, nothing clears up a crappy day better than rowing through the gears for a few hours!