Gay FR-S/BRZ drivers - Toyota GR86, 86, FR-S and Subaru BRZ Forum & Owners Community

Accurate Race Shop · 03-10-2013, 05:49 AM

Ok I'm not Gay I have a wife of 4 years but I have been autoXing with a guy for months and he said he didn't feel comfortable telling me because it's a sports car group. I was wondering if anyone honestly cared? I felt more upset that he thought I was going judge him because I liked sports cars. I don't think a sports Car has to have a sexual orientation and I'm happy for anyone who buys one and enjoys it. Any thoughts on this?

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Accurate Race Shop · 03-10-2013, 05:52 AM

Not trying to be offensive in any way just wondering if we are excluding people by association as sports car owners.

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Calidrifter · 03-10-2013, 06:04 AM

It seems to me that the stereotype has been around for a long time. I believe it has to do with people who may never likely have kids. Thus why someone in a two seater sports car is automatically either gay, having a mid life crisis, or both.

Does it suck that stereotypes exist? Yes

Should you have gotten mad he hadnt told you? No. You don't know him outside of auto x so he might have a different personality with his family/coworker/friends and you should take it as a compliment that he came out to you as he may not be out with everyone else in his life.

campy · 03-10-2013, 06:17 AM

I have been autocrossing for years and many people at those events have miatas. That's just a part of them and I can accept that.

Being open with your sexuality to others can be iffy. You might make a good friend, then they find out you are gay, and they will feel uncomfortable and distance themselves from you. Culture in the US is a lot better about it than it used to be, but there are still many people who just "aren't cool" with it. He probably just didn't want to risk losing you as a friend.

FRSfan111 · 03-10-2013, 06:23 AM

Meh, I'm 22 and my GF loves that I have a sports car. It's not expensive so no mid life crisis here lol. As for gay people in a sports car, I have a co worker who's flaming and he drives an s2k. Must say I was always a bit jelly till I got my FRS though haha.

I don't see what cars and sexual orientation have in common.

bakerr6 · 03-10-2013, 06:41 AM

I've never cared what sexual orientation anyone is. Funny thing is that I tend to attract the same sex (my wife and family make fun of me for it all the time). Regardless of what your sexual orientation is, that one part of your life does not make you any different than everyone else.

EAGLE5 · 03-10-2013, 11:50 AM

I can assure you that there are a significant number of gay FR-S drivers. It's just a fact about any group with anywhere from 3-5 percent of people being gay.

Car culture is pretty macho-BS so I can understand why gay guys would feel uncomfortable coming out. I'm not gay, but I've marched in the SF pride parade twice, once with my kids. Hopefully people can feel comfortable being who they are on this forum.

Mandy · 03-10-2013, 11:58 AM

If someone is gay, I think they should embrace it. Personally I don't judge anyone. I've met people before, and have had to ponder whether they were gay or not (had a roomate in college, but never put my finger on it, and never asked, but I was fine with that).

This should probably be in off topic though.

D1cker · 03-10-2013, 12:48 PM

One of the coolest car guys I know is Gay, not a big deal.

shawnperolis · 03-10-2013, 12:56 PM

My fiance named my FR-S "Panda" because it is white, little, and pretty adorable. Is that gay?

For cereal though, anyone who is a motoring enthusiast is okay in my book - gay or straight.

kanundrum · 03-10-2013, 01:04 PM

[ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8cwg9NceFco"]No Homo -- The Lonely Island w/ Lyrics - YouTube[/ame]

Its the new Millennium Don't be so suburban haha. No for real though Don't care as long as they are cool people.

FReSh · 03-10-2013, 01:51 PM

I'd be flattered if he came out to me, given the circumstances. If your relationship has been based solely on cars/racing/etc. its easy to see why he could be a little uneasy about telling you. It probably means that he likes your friendship and was worried about risking it because there still are people out there who are homophobic and the general stereotype for car guys seems to be a bit macho. The fact that he told you means that he probably feels like he can trust you now after getting to know you for a little while.

I don't think it would be because he was seeing if you would bite though... If he was considering that, he would have noticed your wedding ring and known.

Either way, just be glad that you've found a good auto-x buddy to race with

Source: I'm gay

stilletto · 03-10-2013, 02:02 PM

If anything, being into cars should HELP break some of the tension between Homosexuals and Homophobes.

russv · 03-10-2013, 02:41 PM

This is a non issue

03-10-2013, 06:23 AM	#5
FRSfan111 Sideways and smiling! Join Date: Jan 2012 Drives: First 86 FRS 5/8/2012 (second US) Location: Oregon Posts: 941 Thanks: 17 Thanked 273 Times in 179 Posts Mentioned: 15 Post(s) Tagged: 0 Thread(s)	Meh, I'm 22 and my GF loves that I have a sports car. It's not expensive so no mid life crisis here lol. As for gay people in a sports car, I have a co worker who's flaming and he drives an s2k. Must say I was always a bit jelly till I got my FRS though haha. I don't see what cars and sexual orientation have in common. __________________ My build http://www.ft86club.com/forums/showt...08#post1283608

03-10-2013, 01:04 PM	#11
kanundrum Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Drives: 2013 Whiteout FR-S Location: Laurel, MD Posts: 5,364 Thanks: 2,704 Thanked 3,016 Times in 1,711 Posts Mentioned: 106 Post(s) Tagged: 3 Thread(s)	[ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8cwg9NceFco"]No Homo -- The Lonely Island w/ Lyrics - YouTube[/ame] Its the new Millennium Don't be so suburban haha. No for real though Don't care as long as they are cool people. __________________ Ive spent most of my life racing... The rest I just wasted

03-10-2013, 02:41 PM	#14
russv First 86 Join Date: Feb 2012 Drives: Scion FRS Argento Automatic Location: Northern California Posts: 1,127 Thanks: 1,069 Thanked 544 Times in 232 Posts Mentioned: 8 Post(s) Tagged: 1 Thread(s)	This is a non issue __________________ Life is short...NO BORING CARS

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03-10-2013, 06:17 AM	#4
campy No rice, no life Join Date: Dec 2012 Drives: 2013 Asphalt FR-S Location: Jersey Shore Posts: 1,143 Thanks: 266 Thanked 1,019 Times in 388 Posts Mentioned: 7 Post(s) Tagged: 0 Thread(s)	I have been autocrossing for years and many people at those events have miatas. That's just a part of them and I can accept that. Being open with your sexuality to others can be iffy. You might make a good friend, then they find out you are gay, and they will feel uncomfortable and distance themselves from you. Culture in the US is a lot better about it than it used to be, but there are still many people who just "aren't cool" with it. He probably just didn't want to risk losing you as a friend.

03-10-2013, 06:41 AM	#6
bakerr6 Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2012 Drives: 2013 raven black fr-s Location: cincinnati, oh Posts: 1,447 Thanks: 503 Thanked 443 Times in 305 Posts Mentioned: 3 Post(s) Tagged: 0 Thread(s)	I've never cared what sexual orientation anyone is. Funny thing is that I tend to attract the same sex (my wife and family make fun of me for it all the time). Regardless of what your sexual orientation is, that one part of your life does not make you any different than everyone else.

03-10-2013, 11:58 AM	#8
Mandy I came from a motorbike Join Date: Jan 2013 Drives: Firestorm 2013 FR-S 6MT Location: FL, US Posts: 447 Thanks: 243 Thanked 390 Times in 124 Posts Mentioned: 5 Post(s) Tagged: 0 Thread(s)	If someone is gay, I think they should embrace it. Personally I don't judge anyone. I've met people before, and have had to ponder whether they were gay or not (had a roomate in college, but never put my finger on it, and never asked, but I was fine with that). This should probably be in off topic though.

03-10-2013, 12:48 PM	#9
D1cker Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2012 Drives: B9 S4/ND2 Location: Fullerton, CA Posts: 522 Thanks: 190 Thanked 182 Times in 106 Posts Mentioned: 21 Post(s) Tagged: 0 Thread(s)	One of the coolest car guys I know is Gay, not a big deal.

03-10-2013, 12:56 PM	#10
shawnperolis Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2013 Drives: 2013 Scion FR-S MT "Panda" Location: Tallmadge, Ohio Posts: 386 Thanks: 148 Thanked 277 Times in 86 Posts Mentioned: 0 Post(s) Tagged: 0 Thread(s)	My fiance named my FR-S "Panda" because it is white, little, and pretty adorable. Is that gay? For cereal though, anyone who is a motoring enthusiast is okay in my book - gay or straight.

03-10-2013, 01:51 PM	#12
FReSh Dirt Trackin' Join Date: Oct 2012 Drives: '13 Raven FR-S MT Location: Rockville, MD Posts: 294 Thanks: 67 Thanked 114 Times in 75 Posts Mentioned: 1 Post(s) Tagged: 1 Thread(s)	I'd be flattered if he came out to me, given the circumstances. If your relationship has been based solely on cars/racing/etc. its easy to see why he could be a little uneasy about telling you. It probably means that he likes your friendship and was worried about risking it because there still are people out there who are homophobic and the general stereotype for car guys seems to be a bit macho. The fact that he told you means that he probably feels like he can trust you now after getting to know you for a little while. I don't think it would be because he was seeing if you would bite though... If he was considering that, he would have noticed your wedding ring and known. Either way, just be glad that you've found a good auto-x buddy to race with Source: I'm gay

03-10-2013, 02:02 PM	#13
stilletto Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2013 Drives: 2008 Mitsubishi Eclipse GS Location: Chicago, IL Posts: 137 Thanks: 1 Thanked 39 Times in 26 Posts Mentioned: 0 Post(s) Tagged: 0 Thread(s)	If anything, being into cars should HELP break some of the tension between Homosexuals and Homophobes.

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