Talk to the GM, keep your cool and just tell him you do not want the car. If you have not taken delivery, or signed the actual financing documents it is not a done deal. Even then you have time to back out in some states. The sales manager is trying to strong arm you because he wants the commission. ( then add them to the dealer Black list here )
You are far better off selling your own car and taking in some cash down along with pre-approved financing from a credit union, instead of taking the hit on your trade in as well as over priced options. Do not let impatience get you screwed financially. It is just a car, they will make more of them.