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Originally Posted by HunterGreene
Man, who have you been dating?!? Women don't change into "bitches," they usually are from the start (if they are indeed horrible women). If you can't figure it out early on, I feel sorry for you dude. Sounds like you have gotten pretty screwed over in the past if that's your opinion of women, and I'm sorry to hear that.
As far as the car hobby, its no different from any other major hobby. If she can't figure out that you have a significant interest in something early on, that its something you love and are passionate about, then she should be kicked to the curb ASAP.
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I think you're right, but i also think some women
do change. You're also right about me having been screwed over in the past, but surprisingly i've always been the "dumpee" in my relationships.
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Originally Posted by Justin.b
They don't change. The warning signs are always there from the start, it's just that most guys (or at least half, judging by divorce rates) either don't notice them or choose to ignore them
They choose to believe that "she'll grow out of that" while the wife believes that he'll grow out of the car thing. When it becomes apparent that she really is what she always was and he is what he always was, that's when the bitterness and resentment comes in.
If car guys spent half as much time selecting a spouse as they spend selecting a set of coil overs, these things wouldn't happen.
-Justin
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I'm very surprised by how much i'm agreeing with everyone while still holding a fairly inverse opinion. I think a lot of people really do get married too soon, and that leaves their livelihoods and property at great risk-- you never want to leave your belongings in the path of a scorned and vindictive woman.
Also, i agree that too many people marry "projects," or just people with quirks which they figure they'll just get used to. Personally, i don't value marriage in the slightest. But if i were to consider marriage or a higher-level relationship, i would have to love nearly everything about her to wager half my stuff on being in love for another fifty years.
Disclaimer:
I'd feel remiss if i didn't admit that these opinions are based on the life i've lived and the experiences of myself and those i've observed. My opinions may hold a greater volume of cynicism due to seeing much divorce and unrest in my family/friends' lives. Also, i was treated very unkindly during my childhood by girls and i myself have grown some vindication, resentment and distrust which may permeate an observation bias.