I can tell you from personal experience that ANY wheel can be damaged if you hit something hard enough. Go off track drifting and you'll soon find out exactly what I mean. But good wheels are worth the money and they will really affect how the car drives. I'd definitely recommend you avoid getting any wheel heavier than the OE wheel, and lighter is always a boon. For durability I think the suggestion to get a rally wheel is your best bet. As an aside to your original post, the RPF1s are great wheels, and the fact they bend rather than shattering is a testament to that.
I'm with others that think forged wheels are best for a daily driver because they are light and strong. The Volk ZE40s are the strongest of the Volk line-up, and are still quite light (although not as light as CE28s for instance). These are my daily wheels and I think a great choice. But they are also quite expensive.
Another option would be to look at lighter weight options designed for rally. A little bit of money, but should be incredibly durable without being heavier than OE. I think a set of Braid Fullrace A might be perfect for your use case. They're ~2 pounds lighter than the OE wheels and are VERY strong (comparatively the ZE40s are ~5.5 pounds lighter than the OE wheels, but more than 2x the price new).
I doubt you can get them through FT86SpeedFactory, but I'd definitely take a look at the BRAID Fullrace A:
https://braidusa.com/collections/whe...14601260367914
Hope this helps.