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Originally Posted by Sapphireho
My daughter will be 26 this year. It all started around junior high. Her mother and I split when she was an infant. We had a typical custody arraignment: I had her every other weekend, and Wednesday nights. Once she got about junior high age I didn't want to be the dad that MADE her come to our house, since her life and friends were in her mother's neighborhood. So it has probably been more like 13 years since I have been in the same room as her for more than a hour or so. She just stopped coming around. I know she has had the same boyfriend since about 16. I have never seen or met him. My older sons used to keep in touch with her on Facebook or something, but when she didn't even come around when my dad died a year ago November, they cut her off. My son Joe says "she is dead to me". I hear she and her boyfriend live in Oregon now, but don't really know. I try to say, well, her choice, but it is still hard sometimes. I don't have any idea even what kind of person she is.
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i agree with humfrz. a little googling for an address and a card would be a good start. for all anyone knows, she could feel the same way, but assume you pushed her away.
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Originally Posted by Dadhawk
Oh, I was only marginally better as a son myself. The only difference was if I didn't call my parents, we would have never talked, as I couldn't convince them phone lines worked in both directions. They expected me to call them.
My 3 sons probably stay in touch with each other more than us because they all do the "instant media" stuff (snapchat, Instagram, etc). No facebook though, that's all so last generation now (I never did facebook anyway so I'm good with that).
My siblings and I (2 sisters) exchange texts a few times a month and play a few phone games against each other (Words with Friends, Trivia Crack, that type of thing) so we probably communicate more in the last 5 years then we did in the previous 20.
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my family is now closer because of my brother stepping away. we're terrible at talking during the week. so since the whole thing, the parents have dinner for everyone at least once a week. it doesn't matter what's for dinner, or even if there's enough. the whole point is to get together and shoot the breeze. if we didn't get together like that we would never talk. we're all quite terrible on the phone.
in the same respect, thanks to all of it, i finally see eye-to-eye most of the time with my sister.. we've been at each others throats for as long as she's been alive. so some good has come from all of my situation.
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Originally Posted by Dadhawk
It's not unique to this forum or the car community.
There was some good discussion recently in one of the aviation magazines I read saying basically the same thing. Despite massive efforts on the part of many in the community, including employers and the military, the percentage of female participants has only increased marginally in the past few decades.
In reverse, the same is true for such professions as teaching and nursing. Yes there have been "improvements" with males joining those professions but they are still heavily weighted female despite efforts to do otherwise.
In the end, there are almost always going to be professions and avocations that have some level of "sexism" to them, not everything can split directly proportionately along certain lines. I know it's a bit old school but it seems we should be focusing on people that want to do the job/hobby and not focusing on what type of people want to participate.
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that reminds me of an article i was reading last week.
https://www.nytimes.com/2019/01/27/w...davos-men.html
it's interesting how a movement that at it's roots worked to build equality and end harassment has created a whole other type of sexism.