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Originally Posted by qcbaker

I think it depends on WHY you're bothered by it lol. If you're bothered because you think the job itself is demeaning and dont like seeing someone being demeaned so you help out, then yeah that could be seen as even more demeaning. But if you're just uncomfortable because watching someone else clean up your mess makes you feel like a selfish asshole who cant even take 30 seconds to help out, then I don't think that's more demeaning to him lol.

I always try to make stuff easier for my servers at restaurants for the same reason. Yes, its their job to clear the table, but if I don't stack up the menus nicely so they can easily just take the stack after they take our order, or if I don't stack the plates and put all trash/silverware on top when we're done, I feel like I'm just being a lazy jerk who wants everything done for him.

Originally Posted by StraightOuttaCanadaEh

yeah this is why. I also clean up as much as I can when I'm out at restaurants, stack plates together and scrape the leftovers onto the top plate. I also for some reason fold the napkins even though that doesn't matter lol. I guess it just looks neater. I am very bothered by people leaving trays of their garbage in cafeterias. I don't know how they get up and go. What went wrong and at what point in their lives for them to think it's okay to do that. Boggles the mind

Originally Posted by Dadhawk

I do this as well. For me I think it comes from having been a busboy at one point in my life. I can't not do it, it bothers the crap out of me.

I do this every single time. I even had a server yell at me for it once. Who knew that stacking the plates actually made her job harder? I guess they develop a technique and deviations from that mess with them. I still do it though.