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Originally Posted by ichitaka05
Thanks everyone. Rant it off last night & went to bed, so feel a lot better. I'll refocus and tackle one at a time... first, work project. Request to fire those 2 staffs or replace those 2 staffs lol
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Everyone needs a different approach, but your rant took care of step 1 of the approach I've found really helpful when I find myself overwhelmed.
1. Create a list of the high level things I need to accomplish and share it - it doesn't really need anyone to respond, it just needs to be out there, given a name/formal identity
2. Prioritize the list
3. Break things down for each high level item starting with the lowest priority (that's to force me to finish and give me the longest time to "oh, I forgot to add..." on the items I am most likely to hand off)
4. Identify if any high priority items on lower priority items need extra time out of my control and should perhaps get bumped up the list
5. Get helpers and delegate, or at least have backup. Often I don't actually need more time or help, I just need to know someone will be there for me; the act of not feeling like I have to do it all myself helps with the stress
6. Take a breath and a walk. Pay attention to 3 things that catch my interest and have nothing to do with anything. Wind in the trees or odd reflection off the windows in the building across the street or someone's shoes or... doesn't matter.
7. Start on the list, and do not let myself jump around. Repeat the walks any time I start fretting about something else on the list.
Every morning I check the list to see if I need more help (i.e. something is taking longer than anticipated.)
My grandparents decided they didn't want to attend my wedding, they didn't want to make the trip from Florida. I'm the oldest of their grand-kids, and it was the last time everyone (else) was together... their siblings were so mad they all attended, even the ones fighting some serious stuff (which is why it was the last time they were all together.) It makes me sad to this day. Grandparents and family can be weird. Focus there.
Also, at least you had your bride chosen in advance...
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