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Originally Posted by soulreapersteve
My dad is the strong and silent type, at least with me. When he needs to say something, its scary.
Not so much anymore since he has seen how far I've come in a short time span. Ever since I got the car, he has talked to me more lol
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OMG, THIS! I think it's the conditioning from him through my whole life that makes me not want to interact with him. Everytime he opens his mouth it's either criticising or something negative. When I receive a text or phone call from him I discount it until I am in the right state of mind to take it. My mother's always been the affectionate and sympathetic one who I would approach about nearly anything. My father was the one to avoid. I'm not trying to villainize him but when someone conditions you to expect certain things then those expectations can't be changed so easily.
Wow, I didn't know participating in an online forum about cars could also provide therapy. Being able to quantify that makes me feel much more at ease of why it feels so difficult to be around him or to engage with him.
Fooking Asians.