It's OK greencounty. At 1:40am the penny dropped and I sat up in bed, and here I am online.
By attempting to make things clear you confused me.
12V in can go to pin 2
pin 5 can be wired to pin 2 to also receive the 12V
pin 1 is connected to the reverse trick relay coil
pin 3 is connected to pin 1
pin 6 is connected to the video relay
SIMPLE
It is dark outside right now but I will be up with the birds in a few hours to connect to the switch and the job should be finished!