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Originally Posted by swpbrz
Hopefully she fucks the guy she's in love with after weeks or months of getting to know whos actually underneath
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Weeks or months won't matter if she's not into you. If over those weeks or months she doesn't become frequently sexually excited by you, it's never going to happen.
Guys can hold out and fantasize that after years of banging 'douchebags' that she will become emotionally shattered, 'learn her lesson' and come back crawling to the 'nice guy' and live happily ever after.
But it doesn't work that way. It's not even healthy to think that way. But I've met a ton of guys who do.
One person's stoic devotion is a step away from another's awkward obsession.
To say that it's the girl's fault for emotionally dumping on the guy is also not looking at his fault of
doing the exact same thing by being the other half of these friendzone relationships. Guys in that position seem to think that by participating in these emotional bits that it is a secret back door to a proper relationship. It's not.
Other guys seem to actively pursue these 'friendzone' relationships for the purpose of having any relationship at all, instead of taking the risks involved in pursuing a real one.
You can't lose if you don't play.
But you can't win either.
And nobody bats 1.000...