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Originally Posted by s2d4
I don't agree with this, sounds grossly immature.
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You don't understand ops personality type. He needs to protect himself. Women don't realize they dump a lot of what should be intimate emotional stuff worked out in a real loving relationship.. on the sweet friend while they fuck the fun guy that doesn't really want to be bothered by that level of connection... theres too much fun to be had with the carefree guy.
OP I was in your position. It sucks life is the way it is. Women get better as you get older but right now this girl is using you in a way she doesn't even realize.
Its no ones fault but you should cut her off. Find a passion and use the feeling you felt for her as a metric for the potential perfection that can exist in this life.
You seem like a caring sensitive guy and a lot of young girls will step all over that.
Took me years to get over that first love. I see her now and she wishes we had tried. But at the time it didn't work. I would hear how it sucks she couldn't find someone like me to be with when a shit boyfriend would be shity.
In 15 years you'll likely have found someone worth caring about, and she will have been around the track so many times shell just settle with the one that knocked her up.
I definitely have women issues. So I'm probably overstating things. But 90 percent of young women are so invested in their own in the moment subjective experience they can't take the time to appreciate that guy who was always there. Or always respectful. really they just want a fun guy who they can fill in the blanks on for 6 months to a year. Then when they realize he's another douche and all those blanks have filled in with reality... they come to cry to you.
I got caught in the cycle and I'm still bitter. The way out is to have self respect and cut her off. She is using you and your feelings for her. she might not even realize it. But until your in another real healthy relationship I wouldn't speak to her.