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Originally Posted by KCMachine
Long distance college relationships don't last.
She probably has feelings for you too.
Just continue to be close to her and be her friend and things will eventually work out.
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I'm living proof that LDR can work. 'Course, mine wasn't college. It was a random paths crossing on the internet thing. No dating sites, neither of us looking. It started with a random comment that she, a stranger, left on a blog I had back in the day. Got to know her for several months and then went to visit. We spent two years apart with me flying down as often as my budget allowed, which when working part time in retail isn't a whole lot at all. After what seemed like an eternity I moved to the south, we got an apartment near her college, and we lived together for four years until I finally asked her to marry me. Been married for five years now, have a kid with a second due next month. Life's absolutely wonderful, to put it bluntly.
It takes a lot of trust and a lot of communication. And there were times I was sure it was going to fail. But I persevered more than I ever have before and it worked out for us.
OP, the best advice I can give you is hang in there. If you can stand being around her, be her friend. I know how much that can suck and hurt, but better to see her happy than not see her at all, sometimes. If you can't, don't do it. Don't torture yourself pining for an unlikely situation. There are plenty of women out there, and even though your heart may say they're not "the one," they're not this girl you have in front of you, there's no justifiable way you can ever know that. Because you haven't even met her yet. Not looking seems to be the best way to bump into them.
The differing beliefs is the biggest red flag, imo. I have a little experience with that and it's a great way to destroy a relationship.