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I'm posting this on here because no one here knows who i am IRL and i don't really have anyone to talk to about these things because im a guy and i don't talk about my feelings, except to the person that i'm referring to and i can't talk to her about this obviously. I'm gonna keep it short as possible and most of the details out for privacy purposes. So about 2 years ago i notice this girl that caught my eye, i mean really really caught my eye. It was something that i've never felt before, it was something in my heart that said i HAD to talk to her and she was meant to be in my life. I know a lot of people will claim that this is just a crush, but i was almost certain it was something more and it's hard to prove or explain if you've never experienced it before. During that time i was going through some real hard emotional times because of the bitter taste my last relationship left me in, i was literally ready to give up on people and the world all together. About 4-5 months after i notice her, i finally found the courage to approach, and my god, she was the nicest, most selfless, and amazing person i've ever met. I think the second time i talked to her she mentioned that she had a boyfriend, but i didn't care because i just wanted to get to know her and was absolutely fine with being just friends with her, plus i'm not one to pry a relationship. I found out later that her BF actually goes to some no name college like 5 states away (i've always wondered about this) I also discover that she is a very religious person, this usually is a red flag for me, but it didn't stop me from continuing to be completely infatuated by her. A few weeks after hanging out with her at work we exchange numbers and begin texting about bs 3-5 times a week. There was never really anything inappropriate going on between her and i, but we did become pretty good friends. She literally saved me when i was on the brink of self destruction from the hate i had built up inside me, and she gained my full trust 100x faster than anyone i've known. There is about 3 people i fully trust in my life and it isn't really emotional trust either, plus i've known them for 14-18 years. I think the fact that she was so good really threw me off, because gorgeous girls are suppose to be self centered and materialistic to some degree. Hell, even normal people aren't suppose to be that nice and good. Well, up until about a couple of months ago her and i started talking less and less. Which i understand and i'm trying my best to let her go, but it feels impossible to do. She is the only person in my life that i have ever loved unconditionally, and all i want for her is happiness, regardless of how she feels about me. I know everyone has a their own idea of what love is, but i truly think this was it. Every time i imagine myself with someone else, she pops up in my mind and i can't stop thinking about her. So my question is not WHAT should i do, but where do i go from here? How do i get over her? WILL i ever get over her? For those with similar stories or have advice i would like to hear it. For those who are gonna troll me idc, because my identity is hidden on the interweb :)

TL;DR - Loves a girl already in a relationship. Will never do anything immoral. Would like to let her go. Need advice. And no, hooking up with girls don't make it go away.

Long distance college relationships don't last.

She probably has feelings for you too.

Just continue to be close to her and be her friend and things will eventually work out.

You're never safe on the internet, they're watching :hitcomputer:

Same thing happened to me. Fell in love with a girl but she went to school really far away, and we lost in touch. Still think about her a lot but what can you do except to move on.

Be a friend but be the best friend. Women tend to fling around the college years dating wise. The best friend though is the guy they usually the one they live with after all the crazy goes away

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Hang in there, bud.
All the friend zone stuff you hear about is bs. Yes, it happens to some guys but the internet has blown it out of proportion.
Just stay by her side and be her best friend, and let her be your best friend, and someday, she'll see you're the only one who's been taking steps with her side-by-side, and guess who she'll want to be with when she realizes that? You.
Don't force yourself to move on from her if she hasn't given you a reason to do so.

I love this forum, everyone is so damn nice!!!

Really what they say is true and all you really can do, just try to keep those feelings set aside for when the time may come. It's been proven the more you attempt to move on or forget someone the more they pop into your head. You just need to relax and not stress yourself out otherwise the stress could do harm to your body.. We're pretty complicated creatures! Lol just be calm and keep occupied with other things and don't keep your emotions on hold for her, for all you know it's just an infatuation and the one you're meant to be with May get passed up because you're too focused on what could be instead of the now. It may hurt but you will be fine, just hang in there.
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Plus 1 on women are complicated creatures e_e lol

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What he said :clap:

Lmao my bad, I'll shoosh.

Not necessarily a bad thing, just hard for us guys to understand. You dint exactly come with a Haynes "fix the issue and what her feelings for you are" owner repair manual lol

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Women aren't all that complicated, in the end all they want is security and love in their relationship, and to be desired by their partner. You give a woman those things and she will repay you back 10x.

My bad, I thought it was a "what should I do for me" kinda question. To be fair it's a tough thing to help with but my main point was to not stress over it, if he thinks it's a lost cause because she's drifting all he can do is be there as a friend and hopefully she'll get her shit together! If not, he'll just be doing himself harm with stress.. Stress is like illness for your body and no one needs that!

Or if he wants to go the ballsy way and risk making their friendship awkward he could just talk to her about it..

This guy... I like this guy. Lol