Sad Day
 

Sad Day... I've received an ultimatum from the wife... her or the car.

It took me three days to decide which one to get rid of.

Ugh... so i'm selling my ride. 3800 km i'll never forget, and hopefully will be able to enjoy again in the future.

I'm so depressed.. can't eat, sleep.. feel like my hearts ripped out. ugh.

Have posted it in the Canada classified if anyone is interested.

seriously?
the car never asked you to pick...

if i had a wife that asked me to chose between her or anything.. i would chose whatever the other option is out of principle

^ agree

this get said in everyone of these type of threads.
but seems like maybe the wife was the wrong choice...

i dont have an FRS yet and my wife didnt get why i was so into in, until she finally came on a test drive... then she was sold and wants one for herself.

Whaaa? What was her reasoning?

I don't want to jump I conclusions, but that's a real fck.

Edit- my wife also knows to never ask me to give up something I'm passionate about, especially as an ultimatum. She understands that's one of the reasons why I love her, that she inst the type of person to pull something like that. She is almost as excited for the BRZ as I am...

yeah why did this happen? whats her beef? have u been picking up to much pu$$y in ur new car?

Why did she want you to sell the car?

When your wife starts killing things in life that you have passion for it's a sign your not showing enough passion for her, for every time you drive the FRS, give her a little Slap & Tickle mate.
http://www.cartoonstock.com/newscart.../ksmn1917l.jpg

Is that your ad?

http://vancouver.en.craigslist.ca/rd...225617639.html

That's fuck up. My wife knows better. That's all I can say. It's sad and depressing to read these type of threads.

If the two of you had a discussion about finances, decided buying a new car was a bad idea and you went ahead and got it anyway...I think your wife would have a right to be pissed.

If she was ok with you getting it, and has done a 180* then I think you have a right to be pissed.

Reserving judgement about wife until we hear the full story.

Also...took you 3 days to decide? Why are you with someone where this type of debate is needed?

My wife asked me on our testdrive if she could get one too.... "Do we REALLY need the minivan, dear?"

As mentioned, I'll reserve judgement until we hear the full story, but initially she sounds like an a@@hole.

:word:

I thought getting married to someone you love was supposed to be happy :iono: and that both of you were supposed to keep each other happy

Yeah, I agree. I need to hear the back story on this one.

I was in a similar situation when I was riding.

She hated the thought of me killing myself in my 600RR. It came to a point when it's her or the bike. I took her for a quick ride to Hope/Harrison and from then on, she would bug me to go out for a ride, even to go to church!

With a bike, I understand because the possibility of killing yourself in a bike is way more than it is for a car.

If it is more of a situation where both of you need a car and you can only afford to get one and she can't drive a stick (as per the CL ad, if it's yours) then yes... she has the right to get pissed. Otherwise, get her a 96 civic for 3 grand be done with it.

Sorry to hear!! You might as well get her one of these while you're at it...

http://www.aussiewhipmaker.com/images/whip_1.jpg

Bro you only live this life once. If anyone asks you to make a choiuce that will result in you losing something that brings you joy; then they can hit the door. Don't let yourself get attached to anything you are not willing to walk out on in 30 seconds flat if you feel the heat around the corner.

Was it a financial thing, or she just doesn't want you to have a toy? I'm sorry to be frank, but if a wife is threatening to leave you because of a car - there has to be more than one issue with the relationship.

She's probably scared of you changing as a person.

It's a sexy ride, inviting, and it'll give you this sense of pride
which attracts attention not to her favour.

If she trust and love you, she won't mind. In terms of LEASE monthly payments, there's not too much difference between a civic, unless you are planning to buyback but still enjoy life, don't settle for less. In the end, you probably won't be happy driving something else.

Don't be afraid to tell her the truth and how you feel or else she will keep controlling you if this is the case. Because my gf did the same to me, it took me over a year to fix this but perhaps you will have better luck and telling her early or else she will get use to being in power.

Well said

HAHAHAHAHAHA

Lost all respect for you bro. If your wife is a keeper, shouldn't take you 3 days to decide. If you need 3 days to choose between the wife and the car, and your decision is to sell the car and keep someone who would give you an ultimatum over material goods, you made the wrong choice.

Saw this in the ad, not sure if it's his

"2013 Scion FR-S Argento 6MT

~3800 km - Showroom condition. No scratches, dents or dings.

The most amazing car I've ever driven. Catch this chance to save on your new FR-S.

From the dealer this will cost you 31k +, wife can't drive stick.. so you save!

Broken in per manufacturers recommendations - ready for you to have fun now.

Serious enquiries only. No test pilots. No paypal/shipping/overpayment scams please."

Yep.

Honestly it's a combination of a few things.. in the craigslist ad I just put "wife can't drive stick" - which isn't the real reason, although, had she been able to drive it, she may be more into it. Fact is, she doesn't even have her license yet.

Didn't really want to spew my personal issues on craigslist, so i simplified it to that. But I feel like you guys are my FR-S brothers, so I can say it's a combination of things.

First off, her car is a $500 craigslist corollai bought for her to learn on so there's a bit of jealousy / bitchiness there, even though i did plan to purchase a new rav4 for her when she got her license. That's wife/husband bickering i won't bore you with.

Personally, we have a tonne of debt. I justified getting the car (to her and myself) because the monthly cost was a savings. We were driving a tundra.. and the fact is, insurance, payment and fuel on the FR-S is less than what we were paying for just fuel on the Tundra. So, in my mind.. we were saving money.

Fact is, the 18k of equity in the tundra, should have gone to paying our debts. Had i been putting our family and future as #1 (like a good husband, dad should), I should have done this from the start. You know how it is though, when a guy is putting 90% of his paycheque to debts, mortgage, daycare.. the craving to have something for yourself is strong. Just looking at the car gives me goosebumps.. makes me nervous like a first date. I love it.

And I'll love it again.. perhaps even more, when we've worked off our debt, and i can buy another one free and clear (and get it in the asphalt i always wanted).

And., as someone mentioned, appease the wife a bit more with the slap and tickle, before i do buy it! :)

I might have worded that a tad bit strong. Really the choice was.. keep your car, and show me that you aren't really focusing on our combined goals, and desired future outcomes for a family.

Or sell it and show the world how you are making sacrifices in order to get ahead.

ugh.. it's good to talk these things out.. even with strangers on the internet. lol.

No.. i should be honest here.. 3 days to come to terms with the fact that selling the car was the right thing to do. I love my wife, and our 2 boys. Nothing means more to me than them.

haha..don't worry about these guys. I sold cars that I havent even put on 500km, at least you have almost 4000km on your new car! People sell cars due to buyer's remorse, lifestyle changes, circumstances, purchase on impulse, whatever....meh. ;)

It's just a car, buy another one when the time is right. Once you sell the car, take the family out for a nice dinner and make the wife happy.

Happy wife happy life! :D

Thanks for laying it down man.

I know that feel of wanting vs. paying off debt. I was lucky to have a fetish for early 90's hondas which meant no car payments and stupidly low insurance payments. This allowed me and my wife to pay off our debts over the last 3 years and put down 35% on the BRZ. Feelsgoodman.jpg.

Getting your house in order is the right thing to do and although a sad day, it will be a good feeling when you're crushing it with high payments towards your debts. I'll tell you right now that being debt free was a much better feeling than buying the BRZ. Best of luck to you.

Kids>Wife>Car.

Thank goodness my wife is a bit more reasonable. I guess we compromised both ways, but I still ended up with an FR-S.

My pitch: It's sexy, plus it has backseats!

Her rebuttle: I can't drive stick, plus the automatic gets better mpg.

So.... I got an automatic. But hey, I still have an FRS, and that's all that matters. :)

Tell her you have been waiting years for toyota to build this car and that she can be replaced in a weekend. Its her choice!

GTFOH! This has to be a joke right?

Well it's probably for the best, save some money get yourself out of debt and then pick up a slightly used FRS for a steal of a price when you are in better shape.

Good luck with the sale :happy0180:

Liar! Seats allow your legs to hang down. That's a "storage bench" with seat belts! :lol:

Sorry, my words may have been a bit harsh. I should remember to never pass judgment before getting all the facts. As a former medical student I know what it feels like to be saddled with debt. But honestly, the money from the car that you "should have" put toward your liabilities will not save you enough on interest charges to justify the financial loss of selling. And, as you say, when you're putting 90% of your pay cheque to paying down debt, you really need something you love to keep you going. Maybe you should work something out with your wife before the sale (and financial loss) becomes permanent. I still don't think that people who are supposed to be life partners should be giving ultimatums over material possessions (including money).

you gave in too easily. should of come back with don't worry that's why i'm getting a ecu tune gains 5-6 mpg and you can drive it thanks to flat foot shifting. :D


sorry to hear but the family comes first i get that.

get Telus to give you a raise :D

Call her. Take her out to dance. Buy a couple of drinks. Dance. Make small talk. Tell her you love her. Ask her what she really wants you to do. (Sounds lame, but trust me.)

Any form of ultimatum in a relationship is a recipe for disaster. I feel for you bro as others here do. I have signed up to buy this car and I think my Fiance is still fooling herself that I won't take ownership of it.

I love her to death, but if she said "me or the car"...... ALWAYS THE CAR!

ah HA! So the problem is money, and the fact that she can't drive stick, and is a bit jealous of your new car is just the icing on the cake.

In all honestly, it sounds like you're doing the right thing. Getting out of debt is a VERY difficult thing to do after it has escalated to the point that it consumes you.
Good luck in the battle, just don't force yourself to sacrifice EVERYTHING, you may become miserable.

If you find something you enjoy (such as the car), maybe include your wife in on it a little more, help her learn why the car is unique and why it's fun to drive, and help her learn stick on it as well. If she feels included, it will probably help her feel like she's part of something that makes you happy. Women love that shit. (:

i read this, and thot it was me...

i bot my wife a 95 corolla for her to learn to drive with... and now she has a rav4... i also own a truck (sorta, not quite... its a 4runner)...

i'm sorry you have to sell your car... i'm glad my wife makes enough money to contribute towards the house and its maintenance... and i'm long term debt free with the exception of my mortgage...

soon my friend... soon... you'll be screaming down the roads in the newer version of teh FR-S... with an even bigger debt free smile on your face...