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RRnold 08-24-2012 02:23 PM

Sorry to hear!! You might as well get her one of these while you're at it...

http://www.aussiewhipmaker.com/images/whip_1.jpg

Liquidsnake 08-24-2012 02:29 PM

Bro you only live this life once. If anyone asks you to make a choiuce that will result in you losing something that brings you joy; then they can hit the door. Don't let yourself get attached to anything you are not willing to walk out on in 30 seconds flat if you feel the heat around the corner.

djdnz 08-24-2012 02:30 PM

Was it a financial thing, or she just doesn't want you to have a toy? I'm sorry to be frank, but if a wife is threatening to leave you because of a car - there has to be more than one issue with the relationship.

SPEEDGOD 08-24-2012 02:42 PM

She's probably scared of you changing as a person.

It's a sexy ride, inviting, and it'll give you this sense of pride
which attracts attention not to her favour.

If she trust and love you, she won't mind. In terms of LEASE monthly payments, there's not too much difference between a civic, unless you are planning to buyback but still enjoy life, don't settle for less. In the end, you probably won't be happy driving something else.

Don't be afraid to tell her the truth and how you feel or else she will keep controlling you if this is the case. Because my gf did the same to me, it took me over a year to fix this but perhaps you will have better luck and telling her early or else she will get use to being in power.

SPEEDGOD 08-24-2012 02:42 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Liquidsnake (Post 400423)
Bro you only live this life once. If anyone asks you to make a choiuce that will result in you losing something that brings you joy; then they can hit the door. Don't let yourself get attached to anything you are not willing to walk out on in 30 seconds flat if you feel the heat around the corner.

Well said

dadream 08-24-2012 03:03 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by RRnold (Post 400409)
Sorry to hear!! You might as well get her one of these while you're at it...

http://www.aussiewhipmaker.com/images/whip_1.jpg

HAHAHAHAHAHA

FR-S,M.D. 08-24-2012 03:38 PM

Lost all respect for you bro. If your wife is a keeper, shouldn't take you 3 days to decide. If you need 3 days to choose between the wife and the car, and your decision is to sell the car and keep someone who would give you an ultimatum over material goods, you made the wrong choice.

TRD-FRS 08-24-2012 03:59 PM

Saw this in the ad, not sure if it's his

"2013 Scion FR-S Argento 6MT

~3800 km - Showroom condition. No scratches, dents or dings.

The most amazing car I've ever driven. Catch this chance to save on your new FR-S.

From the dealer this will cost you 31k +, wife can't drive stick.. so you save!

Broken in per manufacturers recommendations - ready for you to have fun now.

Serious enquiries only. No test pilots. No paypal/shipping/overpayment scams please."

EsoBOFH 08-24-2012 04:02 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by TRD-FRS (Post 400155)

Yep.

EsoBOFH 08-24-2012 04:11 PM

Honestly it's a combination of a few things.. in the craigslist ad I just put "wife can't drive stick" - which isn't the real reason, although, had she been able to drive it, she may be more into it. Fact is, she doesn't even have her license yet.

Didn't really want to spew my personal issues on craigslist, so i simplified it to that. But I feel like you guys are my FR-S brothers, so I can say it's a combination of things.

First off, her car is a $500 craigslist corollai bought for her to learn on so there's a bit of jealousy / bitchiness there, even though i did plan to purchase a new rav4 for her when she got her license. That's wife/husband bickering i won't bore you with.

Personally, we have a tonne of debt. I justified getting the car (to her and myself) because the monthly cost was a savings. We were driving a tundra.. and the fact is, insurance, payment and fuel on the FR-S is less than what we were paying for just fuel on the Tundra. So, in my mind.. we were saving money.

Fact is, the 18k of equity in the tundra, should have gone to paying our debts. Had i been putting our family and future as #1 (like a good husband, dad should), I should have done this from the start. You know how it is though, when a guy is putting 90% of his paycheque to debts, mortgage, daycare.. the craving to have something for yourself is strong. Just looking at the car gives me goosebumps.. makes me nervous like a first date. I love it.

And I'll love it again.. perhaps even more, when we've worked off our debt, and i can buy another one free and clear (and get it in the asphalt i always wanted).

And., as someone mentioned, appease the wife a bit more with the slap and tickle, before i do buy it! :)

EsoBOFH 08-24-2012 04:15 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by FR-S,M.D. (Post 400560)
Lost all respect for you bro. If your wife is a keeper, shouldn't take you 3 days to decide. If you need 3 days to choose between the wife and the car, and your decision is to sell the car and keep someone who would give you an ultimatum over material goods, you made the wrong choice.

I might have worded that a tad bit strong. Really the choice was.. keep your car, and show me that you aren't really focusing on our combined goals, and desired future outcomes for a family.

Or sell it and show the world how you are making sacrifices in order to get ahead.

ugh.. it's good to talk these things out.. even with strangers on the internet. lol.

EsoBOFH 08-24-2012 04:17 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Superhatch (Post 400161)
If the two of you had a discussion about finances, decided buying a new car was a bad idea and you went ahead and got it anyway...I think your wife would have a right to be pissed.

If she was ok with you getting it, and has done a 180* then I think you have a right to be pissed.

Reserving judgement about wife until we hear the full story.

Also...took you 3 days to decide? Why are you with someone where this type of debate is needed?

No.. i should be honest here.. 3 days to come to terms with the fact that selling the car was the right thing to do. I love my wife, and our 2 boys. Nothing means more to me than them.

MY13FRS 08-24-2012 04:29 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by EsoBOFH (Post 400633)
No.. i should be honest here.. 3 days to come to terms with the fact that selling the car was the right thing to do. I love my wife, and our 2 boys. Nothing means more to me than them.


haha..don't worry about these guys. I sold cars that I havent even put on 500km, at least you have almost 4000km on your new car! People sell cars due to buyer's remorse, lifestyle changes, circumstances, purchase on impulse, whatever....meh. ;)

It's just a car, buy another one when the time is right. Once you sell the car, take the family out for a nice dinner and make the wife happy.

Happy wife happy life! :D

Superhatch 08-24-2012 04:36 PM

Thanks for laying it down man.

I know that feel of wanting vs. paying off debt. I was lucky to have a fetish for early 90's hondas which meant no car payments and stupidly low insurance payments. This allowed me and my wife to pay off our debts over the last 3 years and put down 35% on the BRZ. Feelsgoodman.jpg.

Getting your house in order is the right thing to do and although a sad day, it will be a good feeling when you're crushing it with high payments towards your debts. I'll tell you right now that being debt free was a much better feeling than buying the BRZ. Best of luck to you.


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