Screwed myself out of my dream car...literally

[DrSteezey]

holy hell. i would buy this right now if i had the money to.

congratulations though on the baby! =) sucks that you have to let go of this baby. you still have a few months of fun before she gets bigger and will find the car uncomfortable. until then just look around, and ask around, even on here and see what people have to say and would be willing to pay for it.

best of luck to you!

[Asterisked Accolade]

Originally Posted by HunterGreene

Thankfully, I have one of those wives that "gets" the whole driving experience, along with my boylike glee that comes with the FR-S. May be part of the reason I married her

And, as far as those guys who have had their dreams "crushed," they were obviously p-whipped and couldn't explain the necessity of having such a fine car to their woman. Or they married a complete bitch, just sayin.

If I may pontificate: Marriage should always be a friendly compromise. If one side is always giving into the other, you can guess that the one who is giving up what they want will be unhappy. I pity those who didn't take the time to properly get to know their wives and married them simply because "oh, she's hot." When you see these "best wife ever" posts and pictures, its because she knows this as well as anyone else: Marriage is a partnership. You may not get what you want 100% of the time, but if you can keep it at a solid 50%, everyone will end up happy.

True when my grandparents were married, and true today.

I agree with what you're saying. However, on the point of marrying "bitches," the sad truth is that many women slowly transmigrate into bitchiness. The flare and romance of marriage wears off and then you really see them begin to grow more resentment and even bitterness.

Alternatively though, sometimes the woman is just sick of the messes and money-stealing nature of the car hobby. As easy as it may be for us to come to terms with the fact of expenses involving our passion, women don't tend to see it the same way.

[Texas BRZ]

Originally Posted by Memphis

Sure it wasnt the concrete driveway with a rock for a pillow?

Thankfully, the wifey wasn't that brutal.....................

................ At least this time around, hahahe!

[Justin.b]

Originally Posted by Asterisked Accolade

I agree with what you're saying. However, on the point of marrying "bitches," the sad truth is that many women slowly transmigrate into bitchiness. The flare and romance of marriage wears off and then you really see them begin to grow more resentment and even bitterness.

Alternatively though, sometimes the woman is just sick of the messes and money-stealing nature of the car hobby. As easy as it may be for us to come to terms with the fact of expenses involving our passion, women don't tend to see it the same way.

They don't change. The warning signs are always there from the start, it's just that most guys (or at least half, judging by divorce rates) either don't notice them or choose to ignore them

They choose to believe that "she'll grow out of that" while the wife believes that he'll grow out of the car thing. When it becomes apparent that she really is what she always was and he is what he always was, that's when the bitterness and resentment comes in.

If car guys spent half as much time selecting a spouse as they spend selecting a set of coil overs, these things wouldn't happen.

-Justin

[Rampage]

Originally Posted by Norcalscionchamp

So sometimes good news can be bad news lol. Two weeks after dumping about $8,000 into my brand new six speed whiteout fr-s I come home to find out my wife is pregnant. I drive an old toyota 4x4 and sold my wife's 4 door civic si to get the frs. After some heated arguments about how car seats could easily fit and me having waited for three years for this car to come out I have finally come to the conclusion that I will not win this battle...So now I guess my question is what avenue would be the best to try and recoup some of the money I dumped in? What do you think someone would pay for an FR-S 6 speed in whiteout with Bespoke audio, dealer installed uv limo tint that comes with a lifetime warranty, Cusco Street Zero 40 way adjustable coilovers, 18x8 +35 matte bronze TSW Nurburgring rotary forged wheels wrapped in Yokohama performance tires, and the Five Axis kit with spoiler (not even installed yet)....additionally all the badges and the whole suspension was painted to match the wheels except for the springs, they were professionally painted TRD Red along with all four brake calipers?

http://www.ft86club.com/forums/showthread.php?t=9235

Part the car out. Take off all the performance parts that will come off and list them in the classified section on this forum. Then drive the car the next 7 or 8 months and enjoy it. You are going to take a beating on the resale anyway because it became a used car the moment you titled it. The hit will not be much worse 6-8 months from now so you might as well enjoy it while you can. In most cases a stock car will sell better than a modded car and you never never never get back anywhere near what you invest into modding a car.


Congratz on the baby. IN the end you will find raising a child a much more rewarding experience than modding a car. Besides, when you ship the little chip off the old block off to college 18 years from now then you can buy a car and start modding to your hearts content. That is what I did anyway. Well, after 5 kids.


Best of luck to you.

[HunterGreene]

Originally Posted by Asterisked Accolade

I agree with what you're saying. However, on the point of marrying "bitches," the sad truth is that many women slowly transmigrate into bitchiness. The flare and romance of marriage wears off and then you really see them begin to grow more resentment and even bitterness.

Alternatively though, sometimes the woman is just sick of the messes and money-stealing nature of the car hobby. As easy as it may be for us to come to terms with the fact of expenses involving our passion, women don't tend to see it the same way.

Man, who have you been dating?!? Women don't change into "bitches," they usually are from the start (if they are indeed horrible women). If you can't figure it out early on, I feel sorry for you dude. Sounds like you have gotten pretty screwed over in the past if that's your opinion of women, and I'm sorry to hear that.

As far as the car hobby, its no different from any other major hobby. If she can't figure out that you have a significant interest in something early on, that its something you love and are passionate about, then she should be kicked to the curb ASAP.

[eriktherod]

Asterisked Accolade does have a point. The honeymoon phase does wear off and then.. things settle down. It's the reality with anything and anyone.

[ST185RC]

I'll take a different approach to this:

So you have your Toyota 4x4, you sell your wife's car (with or without her permission, it's gone) to get your own car, and proceed to spend 1/3 of the value of the car on it, have fun with your wife between the sheets and now she carries your child and you're complaining?

It really looks like she got the short end of the stick here. She lost her car to get yours, she let you have fun while she has to carry the kid for 9 months and you're hung up on whether you should sell the car even after dumping that much money that the civic was probably worth?

Let's look at the net result, you sold your wife's car that paid for parts for your vehicle and you have a kid. Priorities much?


Sounds like a ME ME ME story and the wife who sacrificed to keep you happy.
You damn well better do what she needs you to support her through this time. The only thing you lost is maybe a few hours of sleep over those heated arguments.

Everyone calling her a bitch without knowing the full story, she's most likely hopped up on hormones from having a kid. I'm not letting the FR-S in question cloud objectivity here, I'm just going by what is in the OP's post.

[polarbear]

Originally Posted by ST185RC

I'll take a different approach to this:

So you have your Toyota 4x4, you sell your wife's car (with or without her permission, it's gone) to get your own car, and proceed to spend 1/3 of the value of the car on it, have fun with your wife between the sheets and now she carries your child and you're complaining?

It really looks like she got the short end of the stick here. She lost her car to get yours, she let you have fun while she has to carry the kid for 9 months and you're hung up on whether you should sell the car even after dumping that much money that the civic was probably worth?

Let's look at the net result, you sold your wife's car that paid for parts for your vehicle and you have a kid. Priorities much?


Sounds like a ME ME ME story and the wife who sacrificed to keep you happy.
You damn well better do what she needs you to support her through this time. The only thing you lost is maybe a few hours of sleep over those heated arguments.

I wish I could thank you a thousand times over.

[HunterGreene]

Originally Posted by eriktherod

Asterisked Accolade does have a point. The honeymoon phase does wear off and then.. things settle down. It's the reality with anything and anyone.

Been married for a year (in two weeks) and lived together for 2 years previous to that, and it will be 6 years of total relationship in January, with that first year being at a distances. So, really, 5 years of being in each other's hair. I'd like to think that the honeymoon phase was over well before we got married

[eriktherod]

Oh definitely, I've been in some long relationships (2-3 years) and after the first one or two it becomes everyday. If you can take that person after as long as you have been around them, I'd say they're a keeper.

My theory is that once married, it's a lot harder to become separated. Whereas just dating (or even engaged), if somebody isn't happy with it they can just get up and leave. Each partner is aware of this and perhaps subconsciously tries harder knowing the relationship isn't "set in stone." After marriage, that feeling of having to try so hard perhaps disappears, at least that's my theory!

For me, I just try hard because I care about the other person but.. this is an entirely different discussion!

[bakerr6]

I'm 25, been with my wife for almost 10 years (will be next month), and she is well aware that when it comes to cars, I will value her opinion, but it is ultimately up to me as to what I choose to drive. She was just happy that when I sold the mustang, that I didn't get a corvette like I originally told her I would haha.

We do not have any kids, but she drives a 2011 crv that will be the baby hauler for the majority of trips when we do.

[TheFRSChick]

mannnn that sucks soooooo hard ! if i was pregnant, ILL STILL KEEP THIS BABY! GET LIKE A 2G CIVIC to drive for the next 9 months lmao ! and once im done, GO BACK TO THE SEXYYY BABYYY OF MINES >:]

[Asterisked Accolade]

Originally Posted by HunterGreene

Man, who have you been dating?!? Women don't change into "bitches," they usually are from the start (if they are indeed horrible women). If you can't figure it out early on, I feel sorry for you dude. Sounds like you have gotten pretty screwed over in the past if that's your opinion of women, and I'm sorry to hear that.

As far as the car hobby, its no different from any other major hobby. If she can't figure out that you have a significant interest in something early on, that its something you love and are passionate about, then she should be kicked to the curb ASAP.

I think you're right, but i also think some women do change. You're also right about me having been screwed over in the past, but surprisingly i've always been the "dumpee" in my relationships.

Originally Posted by Justin.b

They don't change. The warning signs are always there from the start, it's just that most guys (or at least half, judging by divorce rates) either don't notice them or choose to ignore them

They choose to believe that "she'll grow out of that" while the wife believes that he'll grow out of the car thing. When it becomes apparent that she really is what she always was and he is what he always was, that's when the bitterness and resentment comes in.

If car guys spent half as much time selecting a spouse as they spend selecting a set of coil overs, these things wouldn't happen.

-Justin

I'm very surprised by how much i'm agreeing with everyone while still holding a fairly inverse opinion. I think a lot of people really do get married too soon, and that leaves their livelihoods and property at great risk-- you never want to leave your belongings in the path of a scorned and vindictive woman.

Also, i agree that too many people marry "projects," or just people with quirks which they figure they'll just get used to. Personally, i don't value marriage in the slightest. But if i were to consider marriage or a higher-level relationship, i would have to love nearly everything about her to wager half my stuff on being in love for another fifty years.


Disclaimer:
I'd feel remiss if i didn't admit that these opinions are based on the life i've lived and the experiences of myself and those i've observed. My opinions may hold a greater volume of cynicism due to seeing much divorce and unrest in my family/friends' lives. Also, i was treated very unkindly during my childhood by girls and i myself have grown some vindication, resentment and distrust which may permeate an observation bias.